Do you think Valentines Day is when i'll truely find out if he cares about me?

Question

I have been seeing this guy on my crew team (i'm the coxswain)(only girl on the mens team)and he is the best rower on the team. We have been seeing each other for 4 weeks now, we mainly hang out weekends(espically in the early hours)We see each other everyday at pratice and talk to each other about every day on AIM

Here's the thing, because we are on crew and arn't supposed to be together. Teammates arn't supposed to be dating (Yes I know i'm just asking for this to end bad). He was like my brother before and when we are around the team we act like there is nothing between us, none of the other rowers know.

We have talked about how we both mutually care for each other and how we arn't insterested in others, how it sucks we are on crew together so it can never be offical. I always question myself weather he really cares for me as much as I do him

If he dosn't get me anything for valentines day is that a sign? Is that the day 2 find out if he make any effort to show effection?

If not what could I do 2 find out if he really cares for me or if he is just using me...

Answer 1

Well if he doesn't get you at least a little something for VD, that's a pretty good sign he's not looking at it as a serious relationship. It wouldn't reveal anything to your team for him to give you something privately.

Why don't you ask him what he thinks about the possibility of deepening the relationship after crew season is over? You're not going to have a crew career forever, are you?

If you don't get the kind of response you're looking for, it's probably best to break it off now before your attachment to him gets even stronger and you really get hurt.