Worries over 2nd pregnancy?

Question

I found out I was pregnant a month ago and it still hasnt set in. My first was unplanned but we knew when where how it happened. This second pregnancy we are kind of in the dark. Well we know the how (Of course)

Anyway for some reason I cannot shake these three possibilties. I will add that I do not smoke and I do not drink

A. Something is wrong with the baby
B. It is a girl
C. I am having twins

Twins do not run in our family. I concede I may be worried just because it is just a shock to us both and we don't know yet how long I may be along (Period is not always regular)

Are these normal feelings? Do they mean anything? I do have anxiety which may be a reason behind some of it. I don't know why I feel this way. I haven't told to many people yet so mayeb that is why is doesnt feel "real" yet

Anyone feel this way? Were your predictions/feelings right?

Also when I think of it, it scares me to death because I do not think i can handle two kids

Answer 1

Congratulations! Our first two also came along as surprises.

It's very normal to feel anxious about a pregnancy and I think with your second you do even more because you are more aware of what can go wrong. If you are already suffering from anxiety, the change in hormones is only going to exacerbate that.

It's still early days and over the coming months you will get to know your baby better as you continue with your antenatal appointments.

If you're still worried and it's affecting your sleep, have a chat with your GP who may be able to allay some of your fears and/or give you some strategies to be able to relax and be calm.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You poor thing! Everything will be fine, you just need to relax a bit. Once the shock is over, you will feel better.

I was FREAKED when I found out I was pregnant the 2nd time (my older 2 are only 14 months apart). I thought there was no way I could handle it, and I was convinced I was having another boy, and that scared me to death. I wasnt planning on another baby and was on the mini pill and nursing my son when I got pregnant. I had all sorts of strange feelings of anxiety and resentment. Once I found out I was having a girl, I was much more relaxed and things started to fall into place. I calmed down and then I became excited.

There is no "right" time to have a baby, in all honesty. Its what you make of it once it arrives.

You can handle this! Congrats and good luck.

Answer 3

I think it's normal to worry that something is wrong with the baby. You have a 50/50 chance of being right about it being a girl. And you should know ahead of time if it's twins, so you will have plenty of time to plan.

I've had a lot of anxiety about my second pregnancy, too. I had just barely gotten my act together with #1 when I found out I was pregnant with #2. I'm not sure how I'm going to manage, but I'll find a way. You will, too.

Answer 4

What your feeling is completely normal pregnancy jitters. I have four, and it never failed that I worried myself crazy over everything. Finding out your pregnant can cause anxiety in its self. Almost all of the things I worried about at first, were nothing more than worrying. I suggest you do something to relax and take your mind off of it. And by the way, congrats!!

Answer 5

I have 2 youngsters. One is 2 and one simply became one on Saturday. They are each healthful despite the fact that they have been each born early (top blood stress). I could advise simply consuming healthful and if you're into an undertaking, ask the surgeon if you'll hold it. I was once instructed I might so long as my center price wasn't over one hundred forty and it was once low have an impact on. Otherwise- wait till after the children are born. Trust me - you are going to be doing PLENTY of walking round :)