I started high school this year and I met this girl and we became friends because she was in 4 of my classes. Lately, though, she's always been clinging to me, which is really annoying because I have lots of other friends I'd like to spend time with too. She always follows me around, and talks to me as much as possible. It doesn't matter where I go- she will follow. I know I'm just such an amazing person (sarcasm) that people want to be with me all the time, but how can I tell her to please stop stalking me without hurting her feelings? I still want us to be friends, just not joined at the hip.
2007-02-12 10:55:36 · 6 answers · asked by spottedzebra13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OMG...I had a friend in high school that did that to me too.
It was horrible. This is what I did. I started talking more and more to other girls, going places with them after school and stuff.
I would not talk to her except briefly when there was someone else I was talking to.
I would make it a point to tell her how much fun I had with another girl after school, the day before and she started getting the hint.
If she asks you why you have been so distant from her lately, just tell her the truth, the kindest way as possible. Tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings buuuutttt.........
She'll back off. If she doesn't, then there's something wrong with her. At THAT point you may have to be more blunt about it.
Tell her, you prefer someone elses company because they don't make you feel like you're being suffocated.
2007-02-12 11:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it because she doesn't have any other close friends? Why don't you introduce her to your other group of friends? Maybe she can click with your friends too, and she won't be "stalking" you anymore.
Or suggest (or encourage) her to join a club at school or something, you know, like something she's good at or interested in. You can say, "why dont you join the drama club, i think you're good at it" or something like that. She'll have her free time used for her own good rather than joining you at the hip haha.. good luck
2007-02-12 19:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by justanickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront with her. Sit her down and say you love being a friend with her, but you need some time to spend alone or with other friends. Give her a suggestion like.......Lets hang out on Friday afternoon and maybe have a sleep over. Then I am busy on Sunday and monday. Tuesday we can meet for lunch at school.
Good luck
2007-02-12 19:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that used to be like this with me. Eventually, we started to branch out and make some new friends away from each other. We're still really close, but not conjoined any more! Introduce her to some of your other friends so that she can feel more secure in her surroundings and make some new friends besides you.
2007-02-12 19:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Isabelle Lightwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesn't have many friends so maybe you should try to introduce her to other people that way she will get to know other people and have more people to talk to/be more comfortable.
2007-02-12 19:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok there is one thing like tell her that you want to see your other friends.
Or like when you see her hide behind a person if you get all you know scared to tell her that becdaszue thats wat i do.
So if you dont wanna do that go to your school caonseller they help alot as well
2007-02-12 19:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋