My husband and I celebrated Valentines early this year and instead of getting me anything remotely romantic, he got me 3 video games. Now I play games with him occasionally and 1 of them was one that I had said I wouldn't mind having, but the other 2 were ones that he wanted, that he thought I might like too. We've been married almost 3 years and I get stuff like this for every holiday and it's driving me crazy!!!
2007-02-12 10:54:07 · 7 answers · asked by cherish k 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Seriously. That was very inconsiderate of him. Valentines day is for romance. You should show him how its really done on the actual day of valentines day so he knows what you want. You need to talk to your husband because marriage is about communication and you need to let him know that on special occasions you want something different other than childish practical gifts.
2007-02-12 10:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by xoxobiby 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This sounds terribly unromantic, and he should be shot-just kidding. No, seriously, you need to lay down the law about presents early. This past X-mas I told my fiance that any holiday or birthday present should not be anything bought for our home, or anything that is for me, but he can use too. Needless to say, my poor fiance was so scared he ended up buying me two gifts to choose from so he would not goof up.
You need to tell him rules of romance-you don´t need to tell him exactly what you want because you might want a surprise, but give him catagories of stuff that is good.
2007-02-12 11:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a three phase solution
Phase 1 (two years) tell him what you want, where to get it and how much it costs. Do this exactly 2 weeks before the big day.
Phase 2: Give him a list of three things you want exactly 2 weeks before the event, let him figure out where to get it and how much it costs. If he varies on the list, you didn't like the last gift tell him exactly 2 weeks before he buys the next one that you didn't like what he got.
Phase3: Hint strongly at a type of gift you want. "Getaway" "Jewelry" "Perfume" "Dinner" "Theatre Tickets" and let him figure it out. Tell him exactly 2 weeks before the event what you are thinking about
If you are very lucky, after about 5 years he'll get to phase 4 on his own. Good luck.
2007-02-12 10:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Sit down with him and tell him that you appreciate getting gifts from him, but that the gifts of late have not been pleasing to you. Give him several examples of the gifts you would like to receive. (Make sure those gifts run from inexpensive to expensive. If you only name expensive gifts, he'll get the message that you don't care about the thought, but the money.)
His feelings may be hurt for a while, but if he really cares to please you, he'll put more thought into it and try to get you the gifts that please you.
I personally believe that the gift should reflect, if possible, both the giver and the recipient. However, the gift should be something that the recipient likes, not something only the giver likes!
2007-02-12 11:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he still has a chance to make valentines right, go back to the store and buy you something romantic, after 3 years u need to stand up now, of all things to buy, smack that boy for me!!!!
2007-02-12 11:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know that you would appreciate different kinds of gifts from him, but as you can see what he really likes...get him all the games he can handle.
2007-02-12 11:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can think of much worse things a guy could do. Don't make a big deal of it.
2007-02-12 10:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by morris 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋