A childhood friend that I had for 18 years and I had had a fallingout and lost contact about 5 years ago over a difference of lifestyles (I was married with kids and she was single)
I've just recently learned that she helped my mom when my mom was in the hospital (she is a nurse and helped my mom with her heart surgery) I sent her a 'Thank You' card and let her know I appreciated her taking care of my mom. I received an email where she thanked me for the thank you. Now I'm at a loss. Should I pursue the friendship again? Should we try to resolve the fight we had or just try to move ahead with a new friendship?
2007-02-12 10:52:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it sounds like the two of you were pretty close as kids.... and she sounds like a good person... so there is nothing wrong with starting up a new friendship again with this person... eventually it could evolve into something more than that. if not, at least you gave it a shot.... because the worst feeling is when you look back and say.. "i wish i would have....."
good luck :]
2007-02-12 11:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by dani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your childhood friend sounds like she has opened the door for you to be back in her life, and you both to be in each others.
You should definitely pursue the friendship again, give her a call, go for coffee, lunch or dinner; whatever you are comfortable with. Just take your time and get to know each other all over again. I would forget the upset of the past, at least initially; unless she brings it up.
You can never have too many good friends, she obviously did not have to contact you again by email after your initial card. Since she is a nurse, it is part of her job, but I am sure that she made sure that she could be there for your Mom because of your connection.
There is a very truthful saying about there is no friend like an old friend. Hope your Mom has a great recovery and you all get to spend some time together. Have a good day.
2007-02-12 11:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past behind you. Ask her to go for coffee or something like that. Rebuild the friendship. If the fallingout from 5 years ago happens to come up (I wouldn't bring it up) the best thing you can do is just say 'I'm sorry that I hurt you and I've missed you, I'm glad you're back in my life!' - some kind of appreciation, know what I mean?
I wish you the best of luck, sometimes it's hard to move on when you've been hurt, but it sounds like this person was a big part of your life, they probably know you (or knew you at the time) better than anyone, it think it's important to keep those kinds of friendships.
2007-02-12 11:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by JD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋