I've given my wife every opportunity to do it herself but I don't think she's capable. I felt guilty at first but I've never been happier in 6 years of marriage.
2007-02-12 10:41:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is certainly a form of unfaithfulness. Also, once you start being emotionally fulfilled from someone other than your wife, you really have no reason to work on your relationship or, even contribute fully. Why don't you try some some counselling to see if your wife can change. If not, then it might well be a kinder thing to do to consider divorce. Otherwise you will steal someone's life, perhaps even your own by spending it in an unhappy unfulfilled relationship. Short answer......yes, it's wrong.
2007-02-12 10:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jim N 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it all right for you? Nobody here can tell you how you ought to live your life. All I can tell you is my opinion, which is personal: - Are you separated from your husband? Then for me it is okay. Good luck and hopefully this new relationship will be better for you. - Do you have an agreement with your husband that both of you can have affairs? Well, then I would say it is okay for you as well due to the point of view both of you have, although I do not understand such relationships. - Your husband does not treat you right, does not show you any love and tenderness and you feel miserable and you are seeking for love and attention? I can understand why you would try to get from another man all these things you can´t get at home… but still it is not right for me, understandable but not correct. You should first try to make your marriage work out and if there is no chance, you can separate and have a new relationship. - Is your husband working abroad and you are feeling lonely and weak? Don´t do it, you will regret it afterwards. Your husband is working very hard to make a good living for his family and you should respect him and remember that he must also feel alone when he is far away from home. - You want to have a sexual affair just for fun, just to try what it is like or do these things you think you missed during your youth…. Bad, bad thing… You will feel miserable afterwards and when your husband finds out he will leave you. Unfortunately we can´t go back in time and although you might think that there are certain things you would like have experimented in the past there is no way to do them when you are once married… Have fun while you are young and free… and if you did not do it, it is your fault and you won´t make your husband pay for it now. This is all I can say to this question, maybe you can find yourself somewhere between these lines…
2016-03-29 03:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true that you have given your wife every opportunity - I ask, does she KNOW about the issues? Does she know she had been given opportunities, or have you never discussed the issues and assumed she got your cues and hints at opportunities? Nonetheless, we all have needs and they need to be satisfied; but unfortunately you are on a path that will eventually lead you to having your sexual needs being satisfied outside the marriage too. Its only a matter of time, and deep down, you know it too.
2007-02-12 11:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by njsnowrider 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you gave your wife the opportunity to do it herself, so you don't have to feel guilty.
There is nothing wrong about to let another woman satisfy all your non sexual needs.
Keep on to be happy. Good luck!
2007-02-12 11:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by charly brown 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are my hero. Now how did you hookup such a sweet deal?
And no its not wrong.
And ladies, I don't care if you thumbs down me. This is the honest truth: let the man play a little instead of keeping him locked down in a cage.
You know the women would not hesitate to do the same. If you read these forums, its mostly the women that are cheating and keeping secrets or have done so in the "past".
The women encourage each other on this kind of activity, but when a man does it, he is considered the scum of the earth. So they are two faced about a lot of things. But don't worry ladies, I'll still insert my member into your fun holes if you give them up to me.
2007-02-12 10:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the danger is that what may start out as a non-sexual relationship could turn into a sexual one as you become closer to the other woman.
Me, I satisfy my man in every way, so he has no need or desire to look anywhere else.
2007-02-12 10:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The sexual part is the LEAST important part of a marriage. If that's all you two have together, there isn't much of a marriage. I realize kids are THE factor, but which is better:
Being miserable together infront of the kids?
or being happy separately for the kids?
2007-02-12 11:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by ididElvis 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why stop there? Make yourself happy I say. Keep doing what you are doing and dont be afraid to cross the line.
2007-02-12 10:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by answers999 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It probably is...but it sounds like it is a necessary evil. We all have needs, and when those needs aren't met....we stray to look for what it is that we need.
2007-02-13 01:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you happy, do whatever...but honestly if you are asking this question then, it is wrong, you should talk to your wife about your needs first, then if you dont get what you need, move on...meaning divorce
2007-02-12 10:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋