I broke up with someone a few years ago, yet even when i think about them I feel like crying. I dont know what is wrong but its heart breaking. I've tried everything but i still feel love for them, yet I never had any closure, what should i do if talking to them is out of the question?
2007-02-12 10:25:31 · 21 answers · asked by Jimmy K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Every person is different, and every relationship is different. I was with someone for about 3 years, but it took Me 10 Years to really get past everything. Talking to the other person is pointless, as it will just reopen old wounds, and most likely, everything has already be said anyway.
2007-02-12 10:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by M L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like a breavement and until you try and seek closure it will never go away. You need to confront your demons and I would strongly advise you to get counselling and talk about how you feel, so that you can start to learn to live again. You need someone to tell you it's over it's finished move on with your life.
I am not going to say join this club get out and meet other people etc etc., as I have more respect for your integrity. However, perhaps a change of scenery would help you to recover from the obvious trauma the break up has had on you.
All the very best and go west young man!
2007-02-12 10:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out there and try and enjoy yourself. Maybe go out on a few dates. If you haven't seen anyone else since your split, you only have that relationship in your mind when you look back. Problem is that as time passes, you tend to idolise ex lovers more. Accept that this lady will always have a special place in your heart but ithat t is time to let someone else in now and to move on. I think the key here is that you say that you haven't any closure - draw a line under this now and try to look to the future with optimism. Give any new girlfriend a chance - she won't want to live in the shadow of your ex. Good luck.
2007-02-12 10:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep crying, just let the feelings out it's healing. Talking to someone will help too. Maybe there will always be a little scar on our hearts from people we truly loved. .
2007-02-12 10:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will take your final statement as fact - therefore my reply would be that you have to start doing yourself a kindness and draw the line, move on get out and find somebody to give this love to. Stop beating yourself up over something you cannot have - better to have loved and lost etc., etc., sounds tough - but you are holding onto something, at what cost....think about it.
2007-02-12 16:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depart him honey. in case you're no longer a hundred% specific of the relationship then why are you there. you're no longer totally commited in case you pashed yet another fella besides. Plus the actuality that he's so possessive and controlling concerns me. As a chick who's been there completed that permit me inform you the those ones will ultimately worsen. my ex used to additionally be candy and being concerned and fiercely posessive which on the beginning up i found candy yet he ultimately remoted me from all my acquaintances and took administration of my existence. He bodily assaulted me as quickly as and nonetheless i stupidly stayed. He extensively utilized to cry and beg me to stay. depart now exceedingly in case you're no longer mushy.
2016-10-02 01:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to them and tell them how you feel. if they feel the same way then great, have another go at a fresh start with them, it isnt uncommon that if you feel this strongly for them, they feel the same way. maybe they are 'the one' for you, you need to talk to them, write a letter, call them, meet up anything to get hold of them. if sadly they dont feel the same, you will have to leave them in the past. the same thing happened to me, and a year on we're trying again...good luck
2007-02-12 21:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest counselling in order for you to determine what is keeping you from developing a healthy relationship with someone else. Perhaps you are unconsciously clinging to this past relationship in order to avoid commitment or being vulnerable with anyone else. Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 10:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is talking to them out of the question? At least this way you would have closure!
2007-02-12 10:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by madmoo0 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wright them a letter if you know where they are, does she 0r he know how you feel, sometimes wrighting a letter will bring some closer in that relationship, also give it to god, let him take care of it,
you got to know that there is love out there for you, you have not meet her yet and when you do u will know,
2007-02-12 10:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by birddog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋