Her weight loss is not going well. She is putting a strain on our friendship by constantly talking about how I'm doing and asking how many pounds I've lost . How do I get her to realize that I'm not competing with her or that (her) this weight issue is putting a strain our friendship? We signed up together at a weight loss and exercise clinic but she hardly ever goes....doesn't stick to the plan and tells me, "Oh well tomorrow is another day" when she over eats. I've already told her that I value her friendship and that
I don't want to lose her friendship as time goes bye. I could feel that she feels threathen by how well I'm doing. I don't brag just go to the gym and try to stick to the plan. What should I do?
2007-02-12 10:22:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her you don't want this weight loss thing to put a strain on your relationship, that it is not a competition. Tell her you hope she does well, and you will be there to support her in her goal. Suggest that maybe you two go to the gym together. If she continues to ask how much you've lost, just say... I don't know I haven't weighed myself lately. Good luck
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2016-09-05 08:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by golden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs you to help motivate her. Asking you how you are doing doesn't sound like a jealousy thing. She sees you are losing and asks (friends do that). Some people really do better if they have someone backing them up. Others can go dieting alone and do great.
Obviously she needs to attend those meetings more and have more will power. I would not see this as her trying to compete, but needing some input from someone who is having success. Give her advice. Ask her to join you at the gym.
2007-02-12 10:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue doing exactly what you are doing. Its up to her to make the same effort you are making. If she doesn't want to make the effort and you two can remain friends, then great. If she has a problem with you losing weight, than that's her issue and you may just have to lose a friend.
2007-02-12 10:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by bytekhan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Explain the situation to her in almost the exact same words you used to explain it to us here. I hope that she chooses to listen to you. On another note: several other answerers have told you to make sure she goes to the gym with you, and help her to eat correctly. I will say that you can and should encourage her, but you can't make someone else change his/her lifestyle. They have to want it badly enough. My point is, if you encourage her and she still doesn't respond well, I wouldn't stress yourself out over it. If she still wants to be petty then that's her problem. Good luck!
2007-02-12 10:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to really do. Your friend feels guilty because she's really not sticking to the plan so she's picking on you. Sounds like you're doing great. Keep it up and don't let your friend drag you down.
2007-02-12 10:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know to drop it,that all this talk about her.Explain to her you don't appreciate her bragging about herself all the time,You are doing just fine & don't need someone trying to over do you.Tell her if she doesn't stop this you two may have to end your friendship b.c. you can't take it anymore.You love her but the way she has been acting is just bringing you to a edge.
2007-02-12 10:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and try to encourage her to stick to the plan also the 2 of you could have little bets between yourself like each week save 2 $ each and at the end of say 8 weeks go shopping together for smaller size clothes you as a friend should encourage her to work out more at the gym who knows she might like it and for every pound weight lost save 5$and after 20 pounds the 2 of you go on a wild weekend to celebrate let me know how you both get on
2007-02-12 10:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are doing great at your weight loss and that different people lose weight faster or slower than others. Tell her sticking to the plan they gave you is really working
2007-02-12 10:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by sara69251 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋