Hurt, Now Trying to Move On?

Question

I have recently had the opportunity to experience some great opinions from people on here. This channel has been my vice as I went through hell and high water with my husband. My husband and I are now separated due to him putting his hands on me and shuving me into the bedframe while I'm pregnant with our first child. He blames me for not wanting to be there because we just got married and I don't have all of my mail coming there and I'm too suspicious of him because he cheated in the past and still possesses some of those sneaky traits. Example: coming in at five o' clock in the morning and not answering his telephone. My question is are there any women out there or men who have already walked down this road and were pregnant? My husband was NEVER violent towards me until these last few weeks. He's 39 and now regresses at rates I can't even comprehend. He's fourteen years my senior. I can only come up with him treating me this way because he's still cheating & I keep movingon

Answer 1

I don't think that his violence necessarily points to him cheating. The fact is that it really doesn't matter. He is violent with you and can seriously harm you and your unborn child. This is not a safe marriage. You need to get out of this.

Answer 2

Oh, honey I feel so bad for you! but you're right there are a lot of women who have been through this before, like myself! maybe things aren't exactly the same. My son's father did the same crap! not coming home till 7 in the morning, not anwsering his cell and all that crap! We were very abusive at the end of our relationship! The hardest part is you try to stay together for the baby! You think that you love him and that he loves you but it's true if he cheats and puts his hands on wrong don't go back! your just going to let keep happing in front of you child till you can't take it anymore maybe it will only be when you baby is four months old or ten years old but a slit up after the baby is harder than before they are here! Don't allow your child to learn that this is a way that girls should be treated! Would you want your daughter to go through the same thing? Or you son do this to a woman! It's not right and you should put a stop to it if you can! you deserve happiness and true love! Even with a child or being a single mom you'll get one day it's hard but anything that is worth having wasn't easy to get! Good luck! be strong!

Answer 3

Girl, I'm living it and in 1998 when I was 5 months pregnant he came in late and I accused him. He shoved me across the room into the fridge... The next day I went to see family out of state which was preplanned for a vacation and when I came home I went to the DR and found out my baby died in the womb the week prior.
Now he says the airplane ride killed the baby, I say his drunken push did.
We are 10 years into this hell marriage with 3 kids. Read my story under my questions section. Maybe reading mine will make you see the light.
They will not change, just keep separated!
YOU CAN MAKE IT ALONE!
I'm not separated yet, as I still still trying to gain self esteem and courage, but my day is coming and one day I will be laughing my butt off instead of crying alone all the time.
After all this time, the only thing I have left is my hope. Hope that there is a better life, a better way, a loving way.
I haven't found it yet, But one day, one day!
Take advantage of state help & forget him. He is too old to change!

Answer 4

Yes I was pregnant and not with the babies dad at the time. It was a mistake to even move in with him for four months when the baby was born. i think it would have been alot easier to just move on when I had the chance. Alot of men become violent when you get pregnant it escalates for some reason.

Answer 5

His abuse will only escalate. Be strong, live with a friend or family member. Start divorce proceedings immediately. You don't want to raise you child in that environment. Be strong, you have more strength than you know.