Do I forgive him?

Question

There's this boy, and we used to be really good friends. We kept falling out though, over silly little things, but we always made up.

But a few weeks ago he started begging me to slit my wrists, and said that he'd commit suicide just so he didn't have to see me again. He said that he wasn't joking, later on that night.

We avoided each other for a couple of days, but now hes acting like nothing happened. I tried to forget about it, but I CAN'T. I really fancy him, and he hurt me. I'm not as upset now, but I've tried talking to him about it, and it hasn't worked, he WILL NOT apoligise. Shall I forget and forget, or stand my ground? :(

Answer 1

no, don't forget what he said to you, if you leave this to the past then he may do it again later on, just try to talk to him, and tell himm that he hurt your feelings, he'll understand later on, maybe when he grows up. e-mail me if u want and tell me how it went.

Answer 2

dude, stay away from this guy. He obviously has mental issue that need to be checked out and the last thing he needs is a relationship to get tangled up in and put his mind to work at something else. If he seriously means to cut his wrists you may want to get in contact with some anyonamous system and talk with a representative to see what else you could do without consulting a doctor for him. (since you arnt a parent) Also if you still want to be his friend kind of give him good thumbs up stuff and try not to agitate him. In this kind of situation it can go from bad to worse faster than running.

Answer 3

Well gurl, you know what? STAND YA GROUND!! If he was as good friend as he said, then he would have never asked you to do something like that. No matter what or how he felt, he should never had asked you to do that, or threaten with taking his life like that. Don't ever let anyone bring you down like that, because it is not worth it. I understand that he was your friend and you still love him, but you honestly can not trust anyone like that. To be asked to slit your wrists, that is a really big deal. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into doing anything.
ttyl♥
Nancy

Answer 4

It's really up to you - not the ramblings of voyeuristic internet users what you do. Are you in love with this person, and do you think that he could possibly be in love with you? Cos if he is - he has a pretty strange way of showing it - love means you couldn't bear to part with this person, just knowing that they are in the same room / house / street as you makes you feel warm; knowing that if they venture out without you; that they will return to you, and only you; bear no malice after feisty arguements; whether or not you crave his apology makes no odds to him, and is only your principle. My wife never apologises, if she is wrong or hasty - but I ove her all the same and would not change anything about her.....can you say the same?

Answer 5

Stand your ground, honey! This dude is seriously messed up! Suicide is NOT something to joke about. If he cared about you at all, he wouldn't ask you to hurt yourself or kill yourself. His "joking" about suicide is a mark of two things - 1) he has some serious self-esteem issues and hates himself, and/or 2) he is desperate for attention, so pretends to be all dark and deep and tormented (how lame).
Please tell your teacher or school counselor about his remarks. He needs help badly before he really does hurt himself, and they can get him professional help.

Answer 6

Maybe it dosent have to do with u maybe his home life isnt all that great! If that is it he would have those thoughts regularly about killing himself ! Dont panic if u see siqns that im right go to a parent or counlsoler at once ! Right now he needs a friend and u need to forgive him and act like it never happen ! but first siqn that somethings not right find someone and tell them right away

Answer 7

dump his sorry ***! Anytime a man will tell you some crazy **** like that he doesnt really care about you! Tell him, "Instead of me cutting my wrist and you committing suicide we can do one even better we can just not talk to each other anymore! Why would I take my life over a raggedy guy like you. Where there's you there are plenty more!"

Answer 8

The guy sounds like bad news, and rather unstable. I'd stay away from him and, if you want, tell him first why you're doing so. He's treated you very badly and not even tried to apologise, I don't see why you should forgive him. Even if he does apologise, forgiving him doesn't mean carrying on hanging around him. He's a w****r.

Answer 9

STAND YOUR GROUND!!!! how could he have ever thought it was okay to ask you to slit your wrists?? he must really have a problem, i mean, and then emotionally blackmailing you afterwards?? Stay away from him, or if you really like him, then try n talk to him about his issues!!

xx

Answer 10

do not forgive him or forget what had happened. sliting your wrists can kill you. there is something wrong with him and he needs help. stay away from him as much as possible. you are only putting yourself in danger if you continue to be around him. this is not healthy for you. find someone who is going to love and respect you for who you are and not beg you to do these things to yourself. that is what you need and deserve. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 11

Ummm...forgiving him is your choice, but either way, I wouldn't go back to acting like things are normal. What he said hurt you, but most of all, he tried to get you to hurt yourself...and people who care about other people don't do that. So..don't worry about if he is going to apologize or not... just stay away from the jerk.