How long should fellow wait to ask for first date, what said, where to go, how long?

Answer 1

Dude, your looking for a formula approach and it doesn't always work that way. You ask when you want to ask. Why wait?

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Answer 2

Tacky as it is, good women are in high demand... ask as soon as it occurs to you that you like the woman, or you may lose the chance. I am now with a man who wanted to ask me out 10 years ago, but by the time he got around to it, i was already involved elsewhere. Keep a sharp eye out for the potential 'good ones'.

Since you are asking on slight knowledge of each other, keep it very light. Coffee for a co-worker, ice cream for an abstainer, do NOT ask someone out for a drink in a bar where you are 'at home'. Make it a public place close to where you both have other business, so that she need not reveal where she lives and feels perfectly safe and relaxed...

"I have really enjoyed talking to you (about X). If you are free, would you like to meet me for coffee at (store nearby enough you can walk) at (definite time like 'lunch wednesday, 11:30')? I would like to hear more about it."

And be aware that she may not be someone you end up wanting to spend more than an hour with, so situations limited to that time are best. Establish an easy out available to both of you. Do not suggest that you drive.

If you find that you actually ARE interested in knowing this person better, after this check in is the time to be prepared to ask for another 'real' date with the same safety rules and definite endpoint. The endpoint is not only an escape clause, but also an indication that you want to know who she is, not just want to lay her. If it is love at first sight, you can always mutually forget the time.

Answer 3

How long to wait:
Met her at a party or social event: immediately
co-worker: 2 Months
friend of a friend: 2nd or 3rd meeting
online encounter: 3 to 5 posts
met at school, bar etc.: 2nd meeting

what said:
A date should be the last thing you should ask for during a conversation.
For example: "Shoot! I really have to run. I'm late for whatever. I really enjoyed talking to you though and want to do it again. When can we meet again?"
Maybe continue with: "Are you free Wednesday for lunch?"
Keep in mind that lunch is much more likely to get a yes response than dinner is so use it if you are pursuing someone out of your league.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Adorables is your friend single, or a widow like mine I ask as because I too am taking my time as not to call or go over I usually did. But the coffee I have pre-bought my coupons when I get my months check & we are overcomeing our shyness. I will have to see if she will meet tomorrow. Which I have done, and told her theres a snack bar near me & it would be a nice walk one way or other.

[ I was able to add this the next morning to what I sent previous so I know Yahoo Answers must have change so good luck. Our date is being considered! And this she might call me back ]