My boyfriend and I just became engaged. He is not legally divorced yet but has been separated for 5 years from his ex. We are so excited and know that we cannot set a date but can we at least advertise in the paper that we are engaged?
2007-02-12 09:15:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well to answer one of the replies, the paper work is getting done up as we speak. They are both hoping to finalize things next month when they have to meet up with their lawyers again. I have been in contact with his ex and they have both moved on (so to speak).
2007-02-12 12:02:21 · update #1
if u want u can but y go 2 all teh trouble n waste so much money 4 nothing ur not even garenteed that the people u want 2 c it will c it!!
oh and congrats 4 the engagement hope all goes well
2007-02-12 09:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by blossom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold on there! If he's not legally divorced yet, I wouldn't be making any plans just yet including announcing it. I say this because he's NOT divorced yet. Do you know when he's going to have the papers signed or if the paperwork has even been filed yet? People who know him and know he's divorced will ask all kinds of questions if you announce your engagement in the paper. Honestly, being seperated does not mean divorce and just keeps things open between people. I don't mean to sound negative about your situation, but I'm looking at the facts. Start asking questions as far as when they plan on filing and how long it may take? How long have you guys been together? How long has he been telling you it's "over"? If he gets offensive or can't answer your questions; you may want to rethink things. There's nothing worse than waiting for someone who will never be officially available. Good luck and best wishes =)
2007-02-12 09:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would wait on making the official newspaper announcement until after his divorce is final. If he's not completely divorced yet things could get rough if the marital break-up was bad... I do say congrats on being engaged tho... I wish you the best of luck !!
2007-02-12 09:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is his problem? Separated 5 years is sick. Get over it already. BTW, engaged is not a legal standing, you can get engaged to as many people as you want whenever you want and publish that in any manner you want.
2007-02-12 09:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Fool.
And I say this not out of spite, but out of wisdom and being in the same situation. Why isn't he divorced yet after 5 years? Why would you SAY YES to a man who isn't lawfully available.
Damn. Why are women so stupid. And then we wonder why men treat us some of the ways we do.
2007-02-12 09:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by pumperola 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
despite if that's first time around then i think of a minimum of 18 months to 2 years .i offered my female chum a frienship ring first and he or she enjoyed it then as quickly as we've been specific we've been going to marry 3 years later we've been given engaged the reason of the long term grew to become into her mom and father didnt like me and he or she grew to become into 4 years youthful than me we've been engaged a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and married 30 years in comparison to her brothers and sisters who had no regulations positioned on them ours grew to become into the only marriage that lasted.
2016-10-02 00:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. Why advertise and give the (i hope) soon to be ex ammo for the divorce?
2007-02-12 09:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no you can't advertise, unless this is going to be a smoothe divorce for him. Legally he is still married. This is called Adultry.
2007-02-12 09:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't. He is not legally divorced yet. I don't care how long he has been seperated, until he is divorced, he is still married.
2007-02-12 09:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...no. He should have his divorce taken care of and then its not tacky to advertise the engagement.
2007-02-12 09:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by GAjen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋