like sex, smoking, talking back, why dont they just smack em in the back off the head or in the mouth so that way they no if they do it again there going to feel that pain and remember not to do....Thats what my mom does to me, well not any more when i was like 13 and under, but now i know what to do and what not to do
2007-02-12 09:09:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My family's Jamaican and smacking ur child is not child abuse, as long as ur not hitting them as if u were boxing thats perfectly fine, hitting ur child with a iron broom or a baseball bat is abuse
2007-02-12 09:16:05 · update #1
why do u think slapping is abuse, so if i slap my cousin thats abuse?? Americans..humm
2007-02-12 14:41:29 · update #2
why do u think slapping is abuse, so if i slap my cousin thats abuse?? Americans..humm
2007-02-12 14:41:53 · update #3
Thank you! Finally someone has sense. Talking to a child really doesn't work all the time... Kids aren't afraid of words- THey are afraid of pain!
PS
I'm all for the occasional smack- NOT the occasional wap over the head with a baseball bat!
2007-02-12 11:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for certain things a smack in the back of the head might work... but for others....
Think of it this way, how long did you hurt... 10 seconds, a minute, I remember laughing after getting spanked, so I don't think the 'pain' was an issue.
However, if I take away your freedom for a week, or a month.... how long is the pain.... a week? a month? In fact there is residual pain days after no longer being grounded. You get to reconnect with your friends and find out all the fun you missed...
I assume you really are not talking about "child abuse" type hitting, because the logic there is that child abusers were abused as children themselves and therefore are just sustaining the cycle. By breaking the cycle, you end up in a world with fewer child abusers, which is all good.
2007-02-12 17:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hitting, spanking or physically hurting a child is abuse. It doesn't matter whether it's with your hand or with a baseball bat, it is physical abuse which is NOT accepted in most developing countries.
Hitting a child when they have done something wrong leads to many problems. It's just a cycle. Now, you think it is OK to spank a child, when you have children they are going to be disciplined like this. And one day, some where down the track, you or your children are going to caught for this child abuse and get into serious trouble.
Hitting a child leads to many problems when they grow up as well. It can make the child more violent and take out there angry in a physical way, against and innocent person. OR in the other case it could make the child to scared to speak out when they have a problem... eg. what if your sister was raped and she got pregnant, would she be too scared to talk to your mum and dad because she thought she was going to get a beating? I would be!
It all comes down to each individual parent/s and the way they disapline there child. We all have our own ways, some right, some wrong. We all dissaprove of what your parents do, but they believe they are doing the right thing!
2007-02-12 18:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because for some kids smacking or spanking just isn't effective. More kids respond to taking away what they enjoy most for an extended period of time as opposed to simply being smacked when they do something wrong. I don't think a spanking or a smack for doing something wrong is abusive, I just don't think it works nearly as well. Think about it; if you get spanked or smacked you hurt for several minutes at most. You ground a kid from their favorite activities and possessions for a month and they'll really regret what they did.
2007-02-12 18:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because good old fashioned spankings are considered child abuse by many and I totally don't agree with that. I think there is a very distinctive line between discipline and abuse. I mean, sure, send them to their rooms with all their gadgets to play with. That will teach them a lesson, huh? And if grounding doesn't work, then what else is a parent left with?
2007-02-12 17:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They ground them thinking it is an effective form of discipline. As far as smaking them, that is a form of child abuse, and not necessary if one is an intelligent person. Apes smack their young in the back of the head, I'm not an ape, my brain is a bit more sophisticated, I never found the need to resort to physical violence and I never had the need to "ground" my daughter.
2007-02-12 17:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
in the u.s. its not abuse to spank or smack your child. it is abuse to leave bruises, break bones and draw blood. we all know what abusive punishment is. parents just think its a crime to spank . restriction is a form of punishment for those parents that don't want to spank or smack. sometimes it is more effective, depending on the child. when i was a kid i got a good old fashioned butt thrashing if i didn't behave. times have changed.
2007-02-12 17:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by jacqueline j 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're saying you were too stupid to learn right from wrong without suffering physical pain? Or that was just the way you were brought up and never had a chance to show if you could learn any other way? And your mom didn't stop pounding on you until you were big enough to deck her back?
Some kids would prefer the beating because when it's over, it's over, I guess. But too many parents don't know when to stop, or they just like to beat on their kids so they make up stuff to beat them over. Taking away privileges is more civilized and usually just as effective. And leaves fewer scars.
2007-02-12 18:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Children of all ages are taught to have there parents charged if they lay a finger on them. This teaches the kids they can do just about anything right up until they get kicked out of home. Now they cry foul but it's to late.
2007-02-12 17:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lab 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well im a mom and if my kids grow up like that witch i know they will i think that im going to proble hit them in the mouth because when i was a little girl i got the belt for telling my mom and dad off.....but then when my mom seen me smoke i didnt get much so i just did it she didnt tell my dad so i didnt get the hard part of that.....but i still smoked uptill last week im having a nother baby so im not smokeing any more........
2007-02-12 17:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by rose m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋