To what extend should you help a person financially, and especially if she is your gf?

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I should also add, is it a good idea to always buy her stuffs when we're out on date ie.. clothings etc. since she didnt even bother to even buy u a b-day card. ;(

All are good comments.. but its easier said than done.. what if ur girl is too sturborn, childest and simply immature enough. She is almost 21 but yet act as if she is still 15 or worst..

Answer 1

Depends, do you plan on marying her or is this a dead end relationship? The reason I ask is that my now husband helped me out about 10 years ago- then he was my boyfriend of only 3 months- I was 22 then. I had 22 credit cards and owed $22,000 on them- I only made $25,000 a year at this time. I was unable to keep up with the min pymts but I never told him about my issues. One day he came across my bills as we lived together and he helped to consolidate my bills and paid them off for me. I then basically turned over my paycheck to him for the next few years as I obvisiously could not manage my money and he placed me on a budget. I did resent his money controll at times but I needed the help. We have now been together for 12 years and married for 7. I am thankful everyday that he helped me out back then but every situation is different.
This may not work for everyone. I am thinkging that since you are questioning this choice, ther is something in your gut telling you that this is a bad idea. So think about the long term...I would not want to see you get used or burned by a girl looking for a surgar daddy/mamma to help her out. Good luck!

Answer 2

Know your limits; i have a g-f like this......thinks I am the bank "I need to borrow $40.00 or worse $100.00; that is my limit. She then nickle and dimed me down to $95 repayment because she had bought us a pizza. She wanted to store a car that didnt run in my small backyard and i said no. I will help her get settlements on her debts and improve her credit which both are valuable services as well as getting her on a budget and financial planning--I guess I consider this kind of like teaching a person how to fish instead of giving her a fish.
I consider these to be nice acts on my part especially since I suspect she is trying to poison me. I told my priest that I suspected her of this and she said "I will talk to her about this my son." Later he came to me and said , "I talked to your g-f for 3 hours.........take the poison."

Answer 3

Have you ever seen the People's Court? They demonstrate daily why you shouldn't lend money to family or friends without a CLEAR and WRITTEN explanation signed by all parties designating the money as a gift or as a loan.

Answer 4

Don't do it. Giving someone money invariably leads to more problems than you'll care to address, particularly if she dumps you for someone else. How would you feel, knowing that you gave her tons of money, only to have her walk out on you? If you can't deal with that possibility, don't give her a dime.

Answer 5

I would pay all her debts and she can move to my house and stay there for as long as she wants.

Also I would send her to college if she wants to go and get her a job if she wants to work.