Whats your opinion of a husband who LOTS of times makes promises that he will do things with and for you and that certain things will change but doesnt make good on those promises and changes.And by changes and promises i dont mean anything MAJOR that would cause divorce just little changes and small promises.How would u handle this and whats ur thoughts on a husband who is ALL TALK AND NO ACTION..and NO i didnt ask him to makes these promises and changes he does this on his own and i just wish he would stop this if he doesnt mean it cause i get hopeful and when it doesnt happen then i feel disappointed.
2007-02-12 08:53:52 · 21 answers · asked by sally d 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
lol no we are both libra's
2007-02-12 09:03:00 · update #1
Timmy i DONT "nag".. I have already said i dont ask for these promises or changes he does this stuff on his own and if he doesnt go thru with this stuff i dont say anything cause whats the use.
2007-02-12 09:12:02 · update #2
well cvoneau u wager wrong we are both satisfied with our sex life
2007-02-12 10:33:29 · update #3
in fact our sex life is better then it was when we were first married and thru the yrs...Been happily married 16 yrs and he has LOT of good points.
2007-02-12 10:39:31 · update #4
I am a husband and I am like that...
Its the total boredom of it all, and the constant nagging... its like a game we play... you nag and I do nothing....
... we both agree it sucks but cant stop it.
edit: Its possible you think you don't nag, its possible you really don't nag, and its possible he thinks you nag anyway, even if you dont.
2007-02-12 09:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Does he ever deliver on promises? This is very interesting (to me--I'm certain it's a major headache for you) as to what his thought processes might be. Kinda hard to say without more information. Is he perhaps a bit ADD or hyperactive? Is he acceptably responsible at work? It MAY be that he's just not very good at planning a task and carrying it out? My guess would be that he didn't have chores for which he was responsible as a child. Or, if he did, there was no follow through on the part of his parents. They did him a grave dis-service if that's the case.
What would I do? That depends on the answers to some of the questions. Does he feel badly, or even recognize, that he promised and didn't follow through?
2007-02-12 09:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband advice?
2014-12-16 17:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while a man learns the only way to save himself is to just agree rather than to try to argue a point with a woman. She will just keep talking until he ultimately gives in anyway, better to shorten the chattering. Women never think they nag. But look at the consequences, if he says no to something, that he doesn't want to change or to do something, do you accept it, "OK dear". Or do you keep explaining and explaining why he should change or do something you want done until he says yes. I will bet that you don't say OK dear. He probably doesn't even try to argue anymore. Eventually you will draw apart, the sex will fade, and you will both be alone, even if you continue to live together. I'm sure women wont like this answer. But if your first priority is not to make him happy, his first priority will not be to make you happy, just to keep you quiet for as long as he can, get a little sex, and get some sleep.
2007-02-16 05:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Peter Peter Pumpkin Eater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly and most importantly, accept and love him as he is. Don't get hopeful, just think maybe he will, maybe he won't, either way I will still love him.
Laugh a bit. Tease him about the fact he says these things and never follows through. My husband has been promising to make me a coffee table for the past 21 years. He's serious when he says it, but i have learned to laugh. Talk is cheap I say. then he laughs too. And we both know that table will never be made. If he ever did get round to it, something special would come to an end.
2007-02-12 09:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by dazzydazlin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is in your control is your ability to regulate your own "hope springs eternal" thermostat. You say it goes up and then down. After a car, kitchen appliance, pair of pants with broken zipper, etc. don't work, you don't just keep trying them hoping that they will start or work this time. You know that the car, the appliance, the zipper needs repair, and until the repair you know that you cannot rationally hope that they will work.
Be realistic with your knowledge, and control your own thermostat of hope, otherwise he is in control of the thermostat, and you are having to regulate his empty promises or lack of change. You bounce up and down, don't do that. Keep a hope for change by actualizing good communication. Ask him if he would vote for a politician based on promises that he knew that the politician would not keep. Explain that you want to vote for him (i.e. your husband) and that his promises make you wobble up and down. Ask him to be realistic in his promises, and that you don't want him to over-advertise what he will do.
2007-02-12 09:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by dejrevilo@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basically the guy is a big fat LIAR. Tell him if the lies dont stop you are going to dump his ***. You may not feel like these little lies were a big deal, but when you collect all these lies into one big bullsh*t pile, they really add up. You will NOT be happy in the long run, if you continue to tolerate this.
2007-02-13 06:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what are his good points?
This is just flat out disinterest. He is looking for something but can't quite find it. What's your sex life like btw? I would wager he isnt happy with it and you probably arent either
2007-02-12 09:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by cvoneau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men make better friends than women?
2017-03-29 00:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it easy to leave ur 1st husband?
2017-02-16 15:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Gardie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a normal guy that won't change for anything unless HE feels like he needs to.
2007-02-12 09:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋