I used to work with a girl I really like, we got on ok
She has a long term partner, so do I (and she knows)
I know she does not fancy me, however
with valentines coming up, is there any harm in telling her
I think shes gorgeous.
Its highly unlikely I will see her again and
I know there is no future for us, and would state that.
I purely want to get it off my chest.
My question is: is there any harm in telling her,
from a girls point of view, would this freek you out
or would you be flattered.
2007-02-12 08:35:56 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For goodness sake I can't believe how many stupid girls forget their own brainholes when it comes to flattery !
Jeezus, the guy is thinking of telling this girl over valentines day! He has a partner! !!
How would ya like it if your boyfriend was planning to say the same thing to another girl on valentines day behind your back?
And how could you possibly accept such a blatantly pathetic attempt at flattery as a compliment? when it's coming from someone who hasn't even got the balls to honest with his current partner????
If you love getting your ego massaged so badly ?? Maybe you deserve second class shite like that.
Get a grip girls! He just wants to get in her knickers. This aint just a mild dose of flirting going down.
Actions speak louder than words and this dude is acting like a jerk. But you don't care, just because he hypothetically flattered you? How desperate can you get?
Scuse me while I vomit.
2007-02-12 08:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by riffyxraff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Flattery always gets the girl. Even if it isn't meant to be a flirt, she will like to hear it. Is there some feeling in the back of your mind that maybe you would like to be with this woman? I understand that you both are in a long term relationship with others but is there some underlying feeling you have for her? Most guys don't want to tell other women they are hot. Yes they lust over pretty women but nothing ever said. Just go for it! Maybe that will be the best thing you ever do.
2007-02-12 08:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Karen A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any girl who is not flattered by someone she knows telling her she is gorgeous is a *itch. Sorry, ladies...but it's true, if a guy tells you he thinks you are gorgeous, it should completely make your day.
SO....to answer your question...go on with your bad self and tell the girl you think she is gorgeous! My only question is, how often do you tell your girlfriend that she is gorgeous, or do you? Think about that...you are wanting to get this off your chest so bad, but what about your girl at home. Make sure she is getting all the love she deserves from you!
2007-02-12 08:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id be both flattered and freaked out. Ask yourself honestly what you wish to achieve and be honest with yourself. if you still think its just an observation you would like to acknowledge then tell her in a passive way like from a blokes point of view your very good looking just thought id give you a lift today. otherwise say nothing or you could make a fool of yourself
2007-02-12 08:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by karen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, i'd initiate small with "you look impressive immediately". If she looks uncomfortable, you'd be out of success. If she's satisfied to take heed to it besides the undeniable fact that, it is an effective signal that she's into you :) nonetheless, some people swear through the tremendous romantic confession, so perhaps that'll furnish you with the outcomes you want. i'm basically more beneficial careful than that.
2016-12-04 02:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a nice Valentine's card. Better yet, send her two and don't sign one of them, then you can say 'this one's from me, but who's this one from?' She'll probably guess and you can have a little giggle about it together.
It is nice to be admired but you don't have to say it outright, it might be a little too full-on, if you get my drift. But gentle flirting is harmless, as long as everyone understands that it's ONLY flirting and nothing more.
2007-02-12 09:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id b flatterd but u need 2 pik the right moment coz if u say dat wen shes gettin on so well wiv er partner shes prob gonna say fuk of u prik but if shes avin a difficult time wiv im then SAY IT!!! u might just score lol!! try an make a diversion sorta thing say summin dats gonna make er fink summin bad bout er partner
2007-02-12 09:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by babikimgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would be a little creepy if you guys have been friends for a long time. But i guess you could tell her if you absolutely have to, but i wouldn't come right you and say "I think you are gorgeous." That would be really weird. Just brake it to her gently.
2007-02-12 08:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by lifeisrandom34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there's no harm in that at all. especially if you know nothing is going to come out of it. girls like to hear that every once in awhile from people other than the person they are dating. it makes us feel better when we're having a bad day.
2007-02-12 08:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by akp_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a little wierd though i think you should tell her. There could be a certain chance she also likes, you never know. Though dont just keep it in you and make yourself feel bad just let it out, its just the way life goes and its normal to like someone.
2007-02-12 08:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋