my husband had guard this past weekend and he came home with news that i have been dreading...he may have to go back to Iraq...right before or right after christmas.....he was over there once before we got married and i tried to not get my hopes up about him not being able to go back....didn't work....how am i going to manage 3 kids and a marriage while he's gone...we weren't married the first time he was gone....
2007-02-12 08:31:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just take one day at a time and pray to God that he will be protected by him and just be there for your children they need you ore then ever.GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS
2007-02-12 08:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u have any idea how long he is going away for??? its prolly the unknown that scares u. I suggest u start by not thinking about the length of time he will be gone for, instead be strong and take care of the kids as if he wer cmoing back real soon.
My wife and i have been married since Aug 2005. and we lived together for four months... after that i migrated to canada and since her paperwork was not ready she could not travel with me. It took a year for her paperwork to process and now finally since christmas 2006 she is here. After a year we look back n see, it was really tough, but the wait has paid off..
All i can say is that i wish u the best.. it will be hard, but hang in there...
2007-02-12 16:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by ammarahmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is very hard to deal with. My husband is gone only 2 weeks out of each month and I hate it. Anyway I couldn't imagine what you have to go through. But it is something that he chose to do, defend our country and you married him knowing this. You should be proud of him for being a hero to everyone here in the U.S.
Nevertheless, I know it is hard. That is when your family and friends come in to play. Start spending more time with them when he is gone and do fun things with the kids. Don't just sit around or time will drag on and on.. Good luck and email me if you ever want a new friend to just talk to...
2007-02-12 16:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have to face this with our husbands in the Army. My husband just got back from his 1st tour a few months ago, and will be returning by the end of the year. It sucks, but you will get through it. Just try to have the best time with your husband now while he is home. Meeting other women who go through the same thing as you helps soooo much too. Keeping up regular communication during his tour is essential. Keep him involved with your life at home as much as possible, mail him the kids school projects and report cards. Webcams are extra nice to have during the deployments. The hardest part is the first few months, but try to break it down into parts enstead of looking at the "whole year" like what date he will be home for R&R. Believe me, it goes by faster than you think.
I'm so sorry your family has to go through this, but so many of us are going through it too right with you. Take care.
2007-02-12 16:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really tough, I know. My friend's husband had to go twice as well, leaving her to have their baby on her own and not meeting his son until he was 6 months old. That however comes with the territory. When you marry a person in the armed forces it is a risk you have to take. My friend started a group of women in the same situation in her town. They would get together regularly and share their sorrows and happiness as well. They'd support each other the best because they each knew how it felt. She'd also be in touch via e-mail and phone as much as she could. I wish I could tell you something more pleasing. Best wishes to you.
2007-02-12 16:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all part of being a military family.
There are groups that can help with family support. I suggest you contact the Guard and look into it.
When you marry a military person that is the commitment you are making at the time.
2007-02-12 16:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your time now, & work out any issues you need to, like set down ground rules for your 3 kids. That would be hard, say lots of prayers & good luck. Plan on writing a lot. Talk to other military wives I hear they can help.
2007-02-12 16:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry he is returning, really. And, I'm sorry you have to deal with young ones. But, this is the choice you two made. To be married to someone who is in the military. This what they do. My mother did it. My father wasn't in the military, but Foreign AID and traveled all the time. He was gone once for two years in Sudan. My mother managed...there were two of us kids...and she worked full-time.
2007-02-12 16:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had three kids since getting married? How did you manage it before? It sucks and I'm sorry and I wish both of you the best
2007-02-12 16:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, i m a military spouse myself. I dont have kids so i feel for you there cause its hard for them too. But, even though you werent married the first time makes no difference, you were still together right? we werent married yet the first time my husband went there, but i was still faithful and supportive of him. you just stay strong for yourself, him, and your children, and then before you know it he will be back. write lots of letters and say alot of prayers and it will be ok. good luck
2007-02-12 16:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Heather0925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends and family are the best resource. Although the military does have support groups for woman like you in this situation. You should check into that.
2007-02-12 16:35:37 · answer #11 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋