On a recent show Oprah Winfrey had a panel of working and stay-at-home moms and said the friction between these 2 groups seems to be the implication that working Moms are made to feel that they love their children less (those that choose to work, not the very few w/ no choice other than daycare).
Oprah concluded both Moms love their children the same, but I actually think that since love is displayed by ACTION, dropping your baby off with strangers every day because Mom feels better as a working woman, versus the ACTION of sacrificing the money, status, comfort, etc of working to care for your baby all day does actually mean that the mother that stays home loves her baby more, is more selfless and shows love through action rather than mere words (and a few rushed minutes in the morning and a few tired hours at the end of the day...)
Is this an off-base opinion?
PS: I left a high-powered career 1 yr ago to stay home with my baby; HARDEST job ever but best decision of my life.
2007-02-12 08:03:14 · 4 answers · asked by Finnale 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Yep, I see how your love for your children is displayed by the action of you being on your computer. What are your children doiing while you chat on the computer. I am at work and I can chat, but when I get home in the evening, I SPEND time WITH my children and NOT on the computer. People don't just "drop their kids off at daycare". Choosing a daycare is important and before I choose one for my children I actually interview them with every conceivable question. Why did i do that, well because I love my children. Let me go on a limb here and tell you, for some single women who don't have the luxury of staying home they cant as you say sacrifice any money. If your husband left you today, you would have to do to work, and who would keep your child? Daycare probably or a family member if you are so lucky to have one available to do so for you. You left a high powered career, great for you, but I have to work, so don't slam me for doing what I have to do. How great of a mother would you say I would be if I couldn't help to provide for them, what kind of parent would I be if we couldn't have heat, lights, food, etc. You have hit a nerve in me and you have no idea what it feels like to have to drop your child off at daycare and go to work do you? Thats right have to. Ask millions of women what it feels like because they have no choice but to work. You are off base!!!
2007-02-12 08:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
depends on if working for a living is actually going to mean you don't have to take hand out from others or if you are working just to be working and don't really need the money. First you have to realize that most woman don't work because they want to they do it because they have to. If they didn't work then they couldn't really feed or clothe thier kids. And it shouldn't be if a woman works or doesn't work it is not the amount of time you spend with your kids but the quality of time you spend with them for you can be home all day and they kids get as much of your attention as a woman who works a full time jobs kids does of her time.
2007-02-12 16:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by na'imah 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree that it shows less love if the mother has to work to feed the children. It is getting harder to support a family on one salary. My ex wife looks for reasons to drop off our son. That shows a lack of love.
2007-02-12 16:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cory returns, again! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mum had to work when we were young and my brother and I were left with several nannies, I'm close to my mother now but found it very hard to relate to her when I was young, I remember her putting her make up on to go to work and sitting at ther dressing table when she wasn't there. I couldn't tell her when I had problems, because she was so busy and eventually she was called into school. This made me feel even more guilty about bothering her as I remember going to the school office to find her crying!
I believe staying at home is the best way to raise your kids, mummy should always be there....I can't afford to stay at home, and I don't want to live on handouts so I go to work, BUT I only work part time while my daughters at school. I make sure to kiss her before she goes to school and that I'm waiting at the gate when she comes out. I always make myself available to her, she needs to know that she can trust me and tell me anything.
2007-02-13 07:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by ✩☆✩HAPPINESS✩☆✩ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋