WILL HE COME BACK??????
We was together for 7 years..Since I was 17 and been living together going on 4 years..This wasn't a planned pregnancy but he was REALLY excited and I was the one depressed for awhile. He is from up north and I am from the south. We was supposed to move to Wyoming because his dad could get him a job making 4 more grand a month, we was struggling with bills. His dad called about a month ago and said the job would not be there for long, so he moved up there. I was going see him for 2 weeks so we could pick out a house..He calls me almost 2 weeks ago and breaks up with me..I don't know what is going on with him. He calls me everyday and I only answer every now and then. Last week he was like WE ARE OVER,move on. So, now I am acting like I am moving on and he calls and wants to talk forever, he askes about me all the time. I don't know if he is scared because of the baby..Do you think he will come back? Sorry so long.
2007-02-12 07:52:25 · 11 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
His dad ran out on his mom when she was pregnant and my father did the same thing. He said he wouldn't repeat the same pattern but he is..Should I let him know the door is open incase he is too ashamed to come back?
2007-02-12 07:53:23 · update #1
Okay baby, I know that you probably love the living daylights out of this guy. No one can tell you if he's going to come back. And as harsh as this may sound, I'm saying this for your own good. Who cares? If he didn't care enough about you while you are 8 months pregnant why are you sitting worrying if this male is going to come back to you or not. Not saying that it doesn't hurt yes it does. But baby you can't worry about it. If he comes back he comes back. But if he was willing to hurt you while you're carrying his child I wouldn't call him, I wouldn't answer phone calls. That's his lost not yours sweetheart. If he couldn't stick it out he wasn't the right guy for you or he wasn't man enough for you. However you want to look at it. I say surround yourself with some girlfriends, and your family and just enjoy these last couple of weeks of being as close to your baby as you will ever be. He treated you wrong. You deserve better. I advise you hold your head up and concentrate on other things, such as your unborn child. Hold your head up. You don't need him, trust me a woman when she wants the best for her and her child can do anything in the world. You'd be surprised at what you can endure. Good Luck sweetheart and I pray the best for you and your baby. Leave the man alone, just put it out your mind. IF he's going to come back give him time and he will. Don't worry your pretty little head about it. You have something that you should be enjoying to the fullest, and thats a little bundle in your stomach. Hold your head up and forget about it.
2007-02-12 08:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by AE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this sweetie. All I can say is that your fiance is just really scared or there is another woman in the picture. I know you don't want to hear that but 99% of all situations like this that is the case. I'm sure he loves you, but he's probably scared and confused and not ready for the responsibility. And now that you are strong and pushing him away, he seems scared to completely lose you. So he definitley still cares. You always want what you don't have! My advice would be to forget about him!!!! The most important thing right now is your baby and should focus all your energy on that. Keep yourself busy buying clothes and setting up the nursury. In the meantime, if it is meant to be it will. He obviously needs time to sort out his life and a baby will definitely not help the situation. Give him this time, concentrate on YOU, and hopefully he will realize what a mistake he made and he will come back. If not he doesn't deserve you and you will find someone better. I promise. Good luck:-)
2007-02-12 08:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bella27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We can only guess at his motives and we don't know him as well as you. You are too pregnant to play games though. When he calls, talk with him. Tell him that you understand being worried and scared and that you can understand him feeling overwhelmed but you cannot play anymore, he needs to decide. If he wants to be your man, he has to do that, 100%. If he wants to be a dad, he has to do that, 100%. He can talk about what's bothering him with you and you can be a couple or he can deal with it and you will work out visitation and child support. Don't let him lead you on so you won't come after him for chil support and don't let him hem and haw because he doesn't want to grow up. He messed up, he left, if he can't eat crow and come back or send for you, then he can send the baby money and come see the baby for visitations. Don't put your life on hold and don't fret over whether he will or won't. My husband and I have had issues and I dealt with a lot of things I shouldn't have in order to preserve a family for my children. I gave him an ultimatum and he stepped up, I don't know whether your man will or not but you need to give him an ultimatum and accept his decision. If he isn't coming back, chasing him and waiting for him will waste your time and will make your life and the baby's life that much harder. You can't make him be a man, you can't make him love you and you can't make him be a good dad. You can just be a good mom and the best you that you can be.
Lots of love, and congrats on the little bug.
2007-02-12 08:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you owe it yourself and your baby to accept and prepare yourself for being a single mother.
You obviously need more education. I would strongly suggest finding someone in your family willing to let you and the baby live with them if you promise to go back to school.
Forget about boys/men whatever and focus on being the best WOMAN and best MOTHER you can be.....
Only when you love yourself and can take pride in your accomplishments will you find a man good enough to really be a husband to you and father to your child.
Every person deserves that, why settle for someone with so many problems. Work on your own and move on....
I hope you can find someone in your family to help. Just believe you can do better and make it happen.
2007-02-12 08:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am really sorry. This is what I would do. I would give him 3 months to come back and tell him that and if dosen't then move on as best as you can.. There are a lot of guys that will love you and care for your and your baby. But I know how hard it is to leave the one you love.. Give him time to sort out his thoughts and relax and sort out yours. Chances after you let go.. he will run back to you and beg for forgivenes. Try to relax though stress is bad for the baby!
2007-02-12 07:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this guy has some serious issues. Im sorry to be so blunt, but this guy is bad news. You really do need to move on. He is totally immature and being unbelievably irresponsible. I know its going to be very hard, but not only should you NOT tell him the door is open, but you should close it yourself. Telling him that is like giving him permission to walk in and out on you as it is convenient for him. Get some therapy for yourself and you should start preparing for being a single parent or consider adoption if it is too much you.
2007-02-12 07:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be very patient with him, he comes from a split family so this is all he knows, if possible move there and lay on your charm. His heart will fall into the right place and this baby needs its daddy around too. He's not over you or he wouldn't call so hang in there. If he's a good man and worthy of your love he'll stick by you and your baby.
2007-02-12 07:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no telling if he will come back to you or not. Maybe when he sees the baby he will decide that the baby deserves to have it's father in his/her life. And PLEASE work on your grammar before having the baby or the baby will be doomed in kindergarten. "We WAS together" Come on, surely you MUST know better?!?!
2007-02-12 07:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We can't answer for you if he is going to come back. Nobody knows exactly your personal situation and therefore only time will tell. Good luck!
2007-02-12 07:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust him? He is obviously unable to handle his committments. Move on with your life.
2007-02-12 08:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋