Whats your opinion on a husband who is ALWAYS making promises that he will do things with and for you and that certain things will change but doesnt make good on these promises and changes.And by changes and promises i dont mean anything MAJOR that could cause divorce just little changes and small promises..How would you handle this and whats your thoughts on a husband who is ALL TALK AND NO ACTION. And NO i didnt ask him to makes these promises or changes its always him and i just wish he would stop doing this if he doesnt really mean it cause i get hopeful and when it doesnt happen i get disappointed.
2007-02-12 07:35:46 · 6 answers · asked by lisa c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dossy i DONT ask him for these promises or changes its ALL his doing i already said that.
2007-02-12 07:49:01 · update #1
after awhile he words will mean nothing to you. Even though you say it isn't anything Major...it could wind up being Major since you are not believing his word and it will only get worse.
Try to explain to him that his word is important to you and if he promises you something no matter how small it is important to keep his word. If he may not get to the promised thing then it is hurtful...Instead of saying I promise explain to him to say...I will try at least if he doesn't get to it you won't be hurt and you will trust him again.
Broken promises can lead to serious problems...good luck
2007-02-12 07:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a husband who has a wife who has the same complaint, I can tell you that one reason he may be "making promises he can't keep" is because you may be refusing to take "no" for an answer. You're leaving him very few options other than to promise to do something he knows he can't do.
2007-02-12 07:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know him well enough . . . . now you just need to work on accepting him for the way he is. You might could try posting sticky notes in his car or on the bathroom mirror to remind him what he has promised to do and that you are really looking forward to . . .. (whatever it is). Then when and if he actually follows through . . . uh hum . . . . I'd make the reward SO incredible that he wouldn't ever forget it. Get my drift???
Maybe then, he would follow through more often. ;)
2007-02-12 07:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as little changes and small promises. If it looks like a duch and quacks like a duck then it's a duck. You should communicate these issues with him, write them down with dates and times. Be firm about it.
2007-02-12 07:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that... and since this is too close to home... I'll have to pass on the advice... but I figured I would just say... a big I'm sorry for your hubby... I am sure (hope) he means well...
2007-02-12 07:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already asked this.
2007-02-12 07:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋