if your husband does not satisfy you sexually and if you have tried everything else. Like talking to him, trying and everythng else. And when divorce is not an option.... If you are young and pretty? What would you do?
2007-02-12 07:33:38 · 23 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!!!!! Cheating is NEVER the right thing to do! Even though you have talked to him I am willing to bet that there is something going on and he either is not aware of it himself or he is embarrased to say it.
If you are not having sex at all....
I am also willing to bet that it has nothing to do with you. Men having a lower sex drive is more common than society likes to portray. Think about your life style right now. Are things stressful financially? Is his job stressful? Have you guys been fighting? All of that and more leads to a decrease in sex drive for men. There are also mediacal/biological reasonings for it. If that could be a possability, he should go to a doctor. I bet that if you show concern for him, he will go.
If you are having sex but it is not doing anything for you....
Think about it. Are what you guys doing now what you have been doing since you first started having sex together? Is it "robotic"? You need to spice things up! Everyone out there has a fetish, just to different degrees. You have them and he has them. Think about what yours are and slowly try to incorperate them into your guy's sex life. Come right out and ask him if there is anything that "really turns him on" and would like to try in bed. If he says no, tell him to think about it. Then when you guys are in bed, ask him if there is something he wants to try. Go to a sex shop together and look at things that both of you think might be fun. I am sure that you will find something. If things are already spiced up but it just doesn't do anything for you, you need to show him what to do. He isn't just going to know.
You can also set the mood all day long and be suprised as to what may happen later that night. For example, take a picture of yourself that is somewhat erotic. Place it somewhere where he will find it, like in his breif case or wallet; somewhere he is sure to look but also somewhere nobody else is really going to peek through. Then send him sexy text messages throughout the day. By the time he sees you, I am sure he will want you. Get out of yourself, that is what sex is all about.
Keep in mind that cheating is never an option. If you love someone, why would you hurt them. Intamisy is very important in a relationship but it does not always have to be sex! Sex should not make or break your relationship. I can almost gaurentee if you cheat, it will break your relationship. Is it worth it? If it is, than you may as well divorce him. Divorce is always an option. Just keep that in mind. I am willing to bet that if you are saying that it is not that there is much more to this relationship that sex and you are aware of that; then why would you stray and hurt him?
2007-02-12 08:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others -- how can divorce NOT be an option? Because you have kids? Money issues? What? They are NOT excuses to cheat on someone. BE AN ADULT and DO THE RIGHT THING. Tell the spouse you want a divorce and deal with the consequences.
2007-02-12 07:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope.. I NEVER cheat... I have never been sexually exclusive either.. but everything was always known and upfront.. no cheating on my part.. there have never been any suprises by me... and the Female has always had the same rights.. Funny thing.. the one i married cheated.. kept it secret.. didnt follow the rules (typed and signed and dated rules.. a contract)
Go figure huh?
I dont cheat.. though I'm old.. and still REALLY pretty (and I'm a guy)
Looking for justifacation? not gonna get it from me.. You do what you do.. and you will.. you wanna be a Ho? (whore is a profession) Fine.. just stay away from me is all i ask... (and i'm single.. but i dont DO THAT..)
Cheating never had anything to do with sex.. cheating is a matter of deception and betrayal....
2007-02-12 09:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not cheat besides that will only make it worse. The best thing to do is wait until he is horny and trust me there will become a time when he gets that way and let him see how it feels. Another thing is you need to make sure some one is not satifying him elsewhere. But don't divorce over this it is a little petty but I feel you because I am in your same shoes at times.
2007-02-12 07:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Child of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all cheating is never the answer because it has a way of coming back on you. What will it resolve? It will only mean that you don't love your husband, how could you if you decide to do this. Have you exhausted all options? Tell him what you like, show him if you have to, make it sensual so it doesn't bruise his ego. Be creative.
2007-02-12 07:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really nice that all these people say that they would never cheat, yet records say that they indeed will. The courts are full of adultery cases from couples who claim that "I'd never do that"!
The fact of the matter is that if a person isn't being satisfied at home.....they will stray, that's all there is to it!
Now all the zealots can throw their rocks at me.....go ahead I'm used to it!
2007-02-12 08:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd by us some books, one of which was "For you Both, by Lonnie Barbach, then I'd seek out several sessions with a sex therapist.
Nope, cheating is not an option.. Divorce maybe..
2007-02-12 07:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't... but why is divorce not an option? It's always an option.
Also, why are you not satisfied sexually? Does he not do it with you? Is he a lousy lover? Need more info here.
2007-02-12 07:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go ahead and be a sexually liberated woman. Most of the ladies on this forum will say it is ok. So go ahead and get some c0ck on the side.
HOWEVER, make sure you let your man do a hot chick on the side. Otherwise, you are just a hypocrite.
2007-02-12 07:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If my husband didn't satisfy me, I would keep him if I love him. If i really loved him, i'd understand that we might not have a connection sexually, but that i still love him, no matter what. but if i didn't love him, i would ask him for divorce. or, if having a kid is a problem, adopt one because there are so many kids that are dying because they weren't born into stable families.
2007-02-12 07:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by i<3hsm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋