Me and this girl have been together for 8 years.. recently, she's trying to get help to get a job. Well she needs a guy's help that I don't like and we have had our problems. Basically, not working with him really, just trying to get on.
They have been exchanging text messages, e-mails, and phone calls about the issue.. yet she deletes them all and says "she doesn't want me to get mad" but I tell her I won't.
The thing is, I have a sneaking suspicion. I've tried to break up with, and convince her to go be with him so I can move on. She says no, there is nothing there and all he is doing is helping her.
But yet, she still deletes the messages and calls?? I told her, out of respect, if she didn't talk to him and she said "fine" but yet she gets sarcastic about it and whenever mentioned she says, "i'm not allowed to talk to him.."
Am I overreacting, or is this something to be worried about? Both said NOTHING is going on but she acts strange, and the doesn't wanna have sex
2007-02-12 07:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by eric c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yep he's building up more than her resume.
Give her an ultimatum. If she loves you and you've been together for that long any replies she makes should be in your defense. I am a woman and would need to see the messages or I would be gone.
If the only thing he is doing is helping her get a job then the vm's, im's, tm's shouldn't be problem for you to see or hear.
2007-02-12 07:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust her? If you do, then you should back off and believe that its only about the job..being jealous will just create issues in the relationship and break that trust.
BUT If you don't trust her, than try talking to her one last time - ask her to see the messages...ask her why she is deleting them if she has nothing to hide? If she is still acting shady about this, than maybe you should tell her that you don't feel comfortable and are having a hard time trusting her....and that it would be better for the both of you to move on.
2007-02-12 15:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, since I am girl and know how these games work I would say she is probably doing more then just talking to him about a job. I would tell her if theres nothing going on then why be so secretive about the messages. I mean I guesse it depends, do you live together, if so then just know shes coming home to you everynight you know. This is something you have to decide, if you dont have strong feelings for her and you think that she may be running around on you, break up with her. See how she reacts and you should get the truth. =)
2007-02-12 15:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey...been there and done that. They may not be having s-e-x but I can guarantee there is something more than, helping her get a job, going on. I have done that and I was having s-e-x with one of them but the other time i done that i wasn't having se x and i still acted that way towards my partner because I wanted the person i was talking to. Okay so something other than friendship is going on especially if she is deleting the calls and the text messages. Take it from someone who has done it. (NOT ANYmore though)
2007-02-12 15:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not right. None of us like our significant other talking to the opposite sex, however we have to learn to trust. What is weird is she deletes everything. I keep all my texts and phone calls cuz I have nothing to hide from my boyfrend. I talk to guys, but if he ever got suspicious he can see for himself what I talk about, which is a hi from my old friends in the Navy or base ball talk. Nothing to be worried about.
If she is deleting, sounds like she is hiding something, even after you had told her you don't care. Sorry hun, but it sounds too strange. I hate to falsely accuse people, but that doesn't sound good.
Move on, and find you a sweetie that is good and is faithfull to you.
Good luck!
2007-02-12 15:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i had this but the other way around and a little bit different i tried to give him the benefit of the doubt but when theres no sex it was a big issue for me if you want to hash it out in detail contact me cause i have been there.
2007-02-12 15:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her behavior to get a job is really not beautiful, and for u is a shame. try to talk to her that she wants to stay with u if she love u, otherwise u can move on. dont be regretable for this relationship cos she had nothing to let u appreciate
2007-02-12 15:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by zara_mini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has no respect..for you or herself. If you are strong enough to take a break you should. It sounds like she needs it. It might help her realize she's got something special with you
2007-02-12 15:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. try to trust her. If nothing's going on, then nothing's going on. the sex thing is difficult tho...that's might be a good sign that there's something going on. Just be levelheaded and try to talk to her about it before blowing up.
2007-02-12 15:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jesus Christ Track Starrr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her, it sounds like there is something going on or she wouldn't delete her messages.
2007-02-12 15:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋