we have been living together and with out her children (3) she wants them to move back with her (us) or shes moving back with them. She moved to find a job but has came up with no job and finding herself slipping away from her kids. i don't want to move to that side of the bay b/c there is no work for me but there is for her plus shes says her kids are in better schools and baseball season is starting for her son. what should i do? i love her do i let her go or beg her to stay? what @ the kids?
2007-02-12 07:11:27 · 14 answers · asked by ☼ robert ☼ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she needs to do whats best for her kids and it sounds like moving is best for her and them. Would it be too much for you to commute? She has to think of her life without you and she nees to be able to support herself and her kids so she needs to move and do right by them. If you really love her and want to support her...you should try commuting or whatver you can to make it work. G'luck!
2007-02-12 07:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "beg" her. She needs to figure out what she is going to do, and you will have to accept her decision. Her kids will ALWAYS come first, and you will be a distant second. Sounds like she wants to do what's best for her kids - which is the right thing to do. Your input is welcome, of course, so let her know how you feel, and suggest some alternatives that would allow you to stay together. At the end, tho, you might have to decide whether to follow her, or to let her go. Good luck.
2007-02-12 07:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she should check again because maybe there is work over there but a mom and her kids should be together so try to compromise. Maybe you all can move somewhere else. Where you have work and where her kids can have good schools.
2007-02-12 07:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by PB&J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother her first priorities are her kids. You will have to accept this - if you can't, find another woman who has no kids. Maybe there is a compromise that you can come to as to where you can live so that both of you benefit.
2007-02-12 07:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. Moving with her with likely end badly for you, and you shouldn't give up your job and everything else you have going to be with her. But, the right thing for her to do is be with her kids, and you have to respect that. If you think you can make it work long distance, then give it a try. Otherwise, if you love eachother and want one another to be happy, go your seperate ways.
2007-02-12 07:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No offense, but why would you want to try and build a future with a woman that already has 3 children? You will ALWAYS take a back seat to them, as you already are! My advice is to encourage her to do what is best for her children, to continue to do what is best for YOU, and if things work out then great? If not, then clearly it wasn't meant to be.
2007-02-12 07:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is responsible for her kids and if she wants to be near them, then she should. Maybe you could commute back and forth. If you want her then see what you could work out. Do remember that she shouldn't have to chose between you and her kids, chances are you will loose. Good Luck
2007-02-12 07:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by ridder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are NOT married, you have no claim on her. If you both truly love each other you will find a way... and get married!
2007-02-12 07:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it comes down to you or the kids....the kids will win. Either you adapt to be with kids or break it up.
2007-02-12 07:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋