2007-02-12 07:06:21 · 29 answers · asked by Glamorous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
if you are having any kind of doubts, don't do it. you're feeling that way for a reason.
2007-02-12 07:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by 'Lissa 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll tell you what I know about this. I'd say no wait for your wedding night. Because, the truth about the matter is that once you have had sex with a guy your body will react to him forever. No matter what you feel toward him. The reason in this is that a guys sperm has a hormone in it that gets stuck in you. When you see that person the hormone reacts.. It stinks when you are in love with someone and you see someone that you had sex with and your turned on. That causes lots of cheating.
Another reason is that once you have sex with one or more partners sex is never the same. I would have done anything to have been a virgin on my wedding night. It takes the magic out of what marriage is supposed to be. On top of that you have nothing to look forward to. There is no mystery.
God gave us sex for pure pleasure but was meant to be between husband and wife. That is the reason guys have the hormone to inject so that women would be turned on when they see their husbands. Men already are turned on when they see a woman so they don't need the hormone.
I can just imagine what my marriage would be like if we had not had sex first, with each other or with others.
If though you choose to have sex.. Stay safe. Use condoms. Not that they are perfect because they do break. But at least your protected to the best of your ability. If you don't want to get pregnant you should do birth control as well as condoms because of the breaking issue with condoms.
Hope you make the best choice you can live with for the rest of your life.
GOOD LUCK with this one.
2007-02-12 15:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it.
Are you in a serious monogamous relationship? Is this guy the guy that you plan to spend the rest of your life with? If not, then definitely wait. Sex is soo much more enjoyable when it's between two people who love each other and are committed.
I would hold off.
If you are going to do it, go to the dr, have a pap test, and get birth control. This will not prevent STD's or AIDS, but it may help prevent pregnancy(remember nothing is 100% effective!). AND use condoms.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-02-12 15:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you ever have doubts about it, you shouldn't do it. What if you get pregnant? No contraceptive method is 100%. Besides, why not make your first time with the right person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with? You should be completely comfortable and ready, when you do make that decision. Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 16:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a doubt in your head, don't do it. I waited until I graduated college by choice. I wanted to make sure that if I had gotten pregnant, I would already be done with school and it wouldn't "get in my way" sort to speak. I do not regret waiting. I knew in my mind that it was the right time for me. I had nothing to loose. You also want to make sure that the guy you are with understands the reason why you waited so he can make it extra special to you. I haven't spoken to my first since, but, he made the night memorable and made me feel comfortable; and that was extremly important to me.
2007-02-12 16:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your having feelings of doubt about having sex, then you are not really ready.
I have been with boyfriend for 3 years and he is my first and only, but I made him wait until I felt I was ready. And we were both prepared to take responsibility of contraception.
You need to feel comfortable, safe and secure around someone who you propose to have sex with. Not just have sex for the sake of having sex especialy when it your first time.
2007-02-13 01:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by brat_baby_one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur obviously not ready if ur still having doubts just cuz ur 18 doesnt mean you have to have sex but when you just make sure you wont regret it, its with someone that means something to you and dont just do it any where especially if u waited this long already...and also protect urself but the chose is urs weather you want to or not dont let other people make that chose for you good luck
2007-02-12 15:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by **Mami of 2 Girls** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't lose my virginity until I had just turned 19 with my boyfriend. I made him wait 6 months because I wanted to make sure he wouldn't have sex and ditch me. Low and behold 10 years later (we seperated for a few years and dated other people) he is now my husband. I'd wait until you are absolutely sure because it's one thing you can't get back or change. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 17:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by iCANgrowTWINS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some sayings that I say to myself any time I have difficult questions is "when in doubt, just say no". Or if you ever feel pressured to make a decision quick, it's usually best to say no. It's better to be safe that sorry. I think you can and should wait. I promise you won't die a virgin
2007-02-12 15:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say save yourself for marriage but this day and age that doesn't happen very often.
If you are going to make sure it is safe. Birth control, condoms, sperm acide so that your first time will not be a 'mistake.'
Make sure you know your partner.
2007-02-12 15:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really beileve that you sould just follow your heart... If you think that your ready than go for it... but other wise, if your even having alittle bit of a doubt, then wait because you will probably regret it in the long run.
2007-02-12 15:13:04 · answer #11 · answered by dazed and confused in KY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋