No abuse of any sort & a great provider, just love lost over years...
2007-02-12 06:54:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Have you been to therapy with your husband? Have you spoken to him about how you feel?
Really, this is a matter of communication. Communicate with your husband. Hopefully you can make a decision with your husband...if not...I'd sincerely say to sit down with yourself and be honest about what you want...
Would you want your children to stay in a loveless marriage? Would you want them to be a bit unhappy?
You know in your heart what you want to do...you are just looking for reassurance. Just do what you need to do. Your family will certainly understand...sooner rather than later, I hope.
Hope everything goes well...let me know how it goes!
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2007-02-12 07:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♠Gotham♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband can remain civil and keep any trash, especially outside love interests, in check it might be OK.
Personally I think it would be very hard to fool the kids. If you can't, you may do more damage to the children by staying together than by divorcing and each of you establishing loving homes. The damage children suffer when they are housed in a loveless relationship doesn't seem to receive anywhere near the attention I think it should.
The problem is, only you can decide and it is a decision you will HAVE to live with. So make it good, make it a decision you CAN live with.
2007-02-12 15:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY tough call. If you can financially afford to keep the children in a safe and healthy environment then leave for yourself. If you're happy the children will be. However, if not able to financially afford to live on your own with the children then you're better off staying. It is a horrible situation to be in.
2007-02-12 15:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by puresatin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation. Don't ever stay in a relationship just for the kids. You will be miserable and then the kids sense how you're feeling and they will be miserable too. If you feel like you are that unhappy to leave him then do it. Like they say...mommy has to be happy in order for the kids to be happy. It will hurt for awhile but in the long run you'll realize you made the right decision.
2007-02-12 15:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend. And I cannot answer that honestly because I've been the single mom for 11+ years now. But I'd like to think that if I did walk, I'd take the kids with me.
2007-02-12 14:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom walked out when I was 14 and my brother was 8 out of selfishness for herself. I hate her for it on a daily basis
2007-02-12 14:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lupita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say walk out for yourself.
But what about the kids!?
How will they ever know true happiness if they see two people living a lie?
2007-02-12 14:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by telenanher420a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children- unless you feel you would be more detrimental to their lives- but at least stay as active in their lives as you can.
2007-02-12 14:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by voodoo/u/do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay and work it out... your children deserve the best. Remember those vows you said so long ago? Honor them.
2007-02-12 14:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. It's not good for kids to grow up learning that fighting and upheaval is the way things are supposed to be.
2007-02-12 14:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by My Dog Rowdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋