How do I ask my friend (we have been intimate before) if she wants to be in an ongoing intimate relationship ?

Question

I am married and I know that she wants to become more involved but we never seem to talk about anything. We just knid of do our thing and then never really mention it again. Is that odd?

i obviously wasn't clear enough, my husband and I have both been intimate with my friend, it isn't a matter of cheating or l;eftovers or anything like that, i simply am having a problem communicating my feelings because this is new and different for all of us.

Answer 1

I suggest that you don't approach the topic as an ongoing commitment, but a string of fun events. The relationship you have with your husband is much more permanent, and she may think you are asking for a similar relationship. I am just guessing here.

If the three of you have already been intimate, I would expect that it would be like asking for a series of dates .. that don't end, unless you live somewhere that marriage accomodates three people.

Answer 2

Cheating on someone is not odd. It happens. However, I do have a few other words to describe cheating, but Yahoo would only censor them anyway.

Answer 3

hey crazy, if you are married...stop doing what you are doing? or for god sakes let your wife go and persue this thing with this so called "friend."

that's just no right at all. your wife deserves better!

Answer 4

First off, if you are married, why are you engaging in outside sexual escapades?
Second, why should your friend settle for second-best...leftovers?
Would you settle??
Why ruin your relationships..marriage & friendship?

Answer 5

from what I've seen, you don't talk about it, you just do it.