If a girl is hiding text messages, phone calls, e-mails from me.. but she tells me she loves me and nothing is going with her and the other guy..do you think she's cheating? she still deletes and hides text messages and calls. I've tried to break up with her.. even convinced her to go out with him instead of me, and she says "no, thats not happening!" and things like that.. i told her if there was something going on, just tell me so i could move on.
dunno what to think?
2007-02-12 06:41:24 · 29 answers · asked by eric c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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WILLING TO FORGIVE HER, AND FORGET ABOUT IT, IF SHE IS CAUGHT IN THE WRONG?
2007-02-12 07:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get some courage. You tried to break up with your girlfriend and she said no? That is sad. Your problem is that you refuse to take control over your life. The girl is sneaky and hiding messages from you. This makes her a liar. You either stay with her and deal with the way she is or tell her that you break up and don't want to talk to her anymore. There is no in between here. Get a back bone and stand up to that girl. Thank you and good luck.
2007-02-12 06:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I think. I have cheated and it was wrong. I didnt want him to look at my phone nothing cause of what i was hiding cause i knew it would end my relationship. I can tell u this from experience that she is cheating on u. Another way u can tell if u guys dont have sex as often. But she is cheating. Im sorry if she is cause it hurts. I have been cheated on too and it sucks but if I were you I would call it quits before she gets more serious with this guy. You dont deserve it. Good luck
2007-02-12 06:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by regenia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to stop being so INSECURE and stop accusing her of cheating. She wouldn't be deleting messages and calls if she had privacy, which you are failing to give her. Give her some room and you will see. TRUST her and she won't feel the need to hide things from you.
What most men don't understand is that females are often friends with the opposite sex, and nothing is going on. They are just friends. Sadly, most men do not accept this and insist that their girl is cheating or sleeping around. There is nothing worse than being accused of something you didn't do.
My boyfriend used to do the same things to me. He would steal my cell and check on who I am calling, he would read my text messages, and he even broke into my email account. THAT IS MY PRIVATE PROPERTY and no one else should be allowed to just look at it whenever they want. I never did that to him. He also accused me a cheating and being a whore, neither of which was I guilty.
If you want her to be with you, TRUST her. If you can't do that because of your INSECURITIES then leave her, or she will leave you. No girl wants to be harrassed by her boyfriend.
If you have a gut feeling something else is going on, leave her and let it go. No need to bring drama into your life.
Oh, my boyfriend that used to do all that-HE IS NOW MY EX
2007-02-12 06:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by rchl782 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it walks like a dog, barks like a dog, and licks it's privates like a dog, then guess what? Then again she might be telling you the truth. But the fact that you're always going to wonder and question her pretty much spells doom for the two of you. With so many HOT women out there, why waste your time with somebody you obviously don't trust?
2007-02-12 06:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things don't necissarily mean she's cheating. Perhaps she is hiding the messages and emails from you because she doesn't want you to worry. You need to make a decision to trust her, and stop making accusations, or let her know that you can't be with her if she continues to talk to him. Either way, the ball is in your court.
2007-02-12 06:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are uncomfortable in the relationship move on. If you want to break up with her just do so. Tell Her goodbye. When you get ready to break up you don't ask the other person's permission. If you are together then she should not be having another relationship.
2007-02-12 06:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that these are major signs of a person cheating BUT you never know so you need to tell her how you feel about her hiding these things from you.
2007-02-12 06:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Shalla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, when people are hiding something they are up to no good. If there was really nothinig going on with her and this guy she would not hide any of the messages from you. Just dump her and move on to greener pastures.
2007-02-12 06:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is causing more stress in your life than the relationship is worth... You can not fully enjoy someones company when you are constantly worrying about what is on their phone or how to catch them in the act... sounds like you would be better off just moving on regardless of what the real truth is.
2007-02-12 06:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋