For my wedding my MIL showed up in a dress different than we had picked for her. There was nothing I could do other than let the wedding proceed.....
But afterwards I felt she "owed" me !!!!!
My husband and his / her family do not aree!!!! .... "mom didn't mean anything " ......
I think she did !!!! and I do NOT appeciate my husband.... (her baby) taking her side
2007-02-12 06:24:08 · 21 answers · asked by pissed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what he should disown his mom because his wife is acting like a brat!! don't you think you are over reacting just a bit no matter what you might think she meant by it get over it it really is not that big of a deal and you are not starting out on a good note by attacking the mil so save yourself some marital problems and leave it be!!
2007-02-12 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by notyochic 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Boy oh boy MIL can be a pain in the butt for sure. They always want to show the daughter in laws who is incharge of her son (and it ain't the wife) Now the dress situation, did you and your new husband pick the dress out with her or was it just the two of you? Now did you and the MIL have a good relationship before the wedding, if not she is spiting you. Now your husband should know what a wedding day means to the ladies (it means everything) so he should stay out of it. If you'll have a good relationship then maybe you should overlook the last minute change in the dress, cause maybe something was wrong with the original dress and she didn't want to bother you with useless matters.
All in all I am sure the wedding was a big hit and you are happy.
2007-02-12 07:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to see a marriage start out with hard feelings so I say ya gotta let it go! Just maybe she decided at the last minute that she didn't like the way it looked and wanted to wear something else.....whatever the reason it is not worth a battle. Sometimes you just have to get past it and move on. I am a firm believer in picking your battles carefully and this one should not be a battle.
2007-02-12 06:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by breezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your biggest issue at this point feel grateful that you only had that issue... If her dress looked like Cher from the Oscars a few years ago, then I can see your issue...
Settle down, enjoy your husband and realize that this was a small thing and believe it or not, you will have much worse problems down the road if you keep pushing this issue...She doesn't owe you anything...
Relax...don't be Bridezilla and get over it...
Marriage is not about getting married...it's about being with the person you love hopefully forever...In a few years you'll laugh at how rediculous this whole thing is...
2007-02-12 06:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by froalskiner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went back and consider your first question...mandatory some greater perception earlier responding. Did everyone ask your MIL why she favorite a protracted gown? possibly she's uncomfortable wearing short outfits? i.e. religious, Spider Veins, unsightly bruises, and so on... that's kinda loopy that she did promise to have the gown shortened and then failed to do it. i'd call her on that one... Did her wearing the longer gown incredibly wreck your wedding ceremony? that's interior the previous? permit it circulate...take excitement on your newlywed state and don't contemplate on it. existence is short. do no longer permit this get interior the way of your marriage/happiness. tell your MIL the style you sense. call her, do it man or woman, write her a letter. Do what you will desire to do to get it off your chest. Then permit it circulate. I have been given married at present and had a morning/sunlight hours wedding ceremony. My MIL wore a protracted gown (mid-calf) and my mom wore a gasp tournament. It did no longer count to me what they wore. They did ask approximately shade scheming...they did no longer choose to thoroughly conflict, yet i'd desire to've cared much less what they wore. i replace into greater worried approximately my own gown, my grooms/BM's tuxes, flowers, catering, cake, and so on... Take a deep breath and permit all of it circulate.....
2016-11-03 06:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your chance to dispute your arguement before you said, I do, to her son. You need to let it go or hold the grudge. You have accepted her son as your husband and I'm afraid you are now stuck with the way she is. If you don't learn to pick and choose your battles, you are going to be very miserable in this marriage. Thank you and good luck.
2007-02-12 06:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference did it make what she wore as long as she didn't wear 1) a wedding gown 2) a black dress of mourning or 3) show up nude?
This is your husband's mother and you'll have a lifetime relationship with her. It's time you matured and interacted with people with respect and stop behaving like an entitled bride.
2007-02-12 06:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
thats bad starting a wedding that way already mother in law troubles thats just the beginning i been threw 3 mother in laws mine bossed i divorced 2 on account of thier over bearing mothers if shes starting my advice is get a anullment from her son little boy thats how thier treated
2007-02-15 14:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have asked you would it be ok if she wore a different dress, afterall, it was YOUR wedding. I'd be pissed too. I think that was very disrespectful of her. Your husband sounds like a mama's boy. I hate dudes like that. I'd tell his mom what's up and have a lil discussion about it. I wouldn't let her run over me. Your husband needs to tell her to respect his wife.
2007-02-12 06:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had MIL problems at first as well. Dont disrespect her but you need to be firm in everything else that you say to her about anything. The wedding is already done and you cant go back in time to change it. As for your husband, dont argue with him about her b/c you two will be mad at each other while the MIL is fine.
2007-02-12 06:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by daprty1 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's a stupid dress, what are you so up in arms about? Maybe she hated the dress. Honestly that is the most ridiculous thing I swear. She owes you nothing, infact you should be grateful she gave birth to a son who is now your husband. Without her there would be no him. Get over it.
2007-02-12 06:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋