My friend really likes her boyfriend but all us ( her friends know that he is just using her) he is really inmature and he is always messing around with other girls, he even does this in front of us. He is just really wrong for her and I just want to know should we tell her that he is cheating on her with other girls or should we let her find out on her own?
2007-02-12 06:20:05 · 11 answers · asked by Natasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you value her as a true friend, then yes you should tell her. If she finds out down the road that you knew and didn' tell her, you might lose her as a friend.
2007-02-12 06:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is tricky. On one hand, if you don't tell her she will be upset that you didn't. On the other hand, she may be upset with you if you tell her because she will think you're trying to mess with her relationship.
I've run across this one before. Here's how I did an end run around both of the problems above.
Go to the boyfriend and confront him about his fooling around. Tell him that if he doesn't tell your friend and work it out with her, that you will tell her. Give him a deadline too.
If he doesn't (and you'll know if he doesn't) you should set up a lunch with both of them and bring up the subject. This way she will see that you care, and that you are giving him every chance to explain his behavior.
There is still the chance that your friend will be upset with you for exposing this problem, but it's a chance you'll have to take.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 09:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lorrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have personally been in this situation, I went to my friend and was like look he is cheating on you. Don't mention all the other stuff, that looks like you are just digging for reasons for them to break up. Just be like look I love you as a friend and _____ has been cheating on you. I have personally seen it happen. Your friend can do one of two things, believe you and question him, or not believe you and find out the hard way. Just make sure that you are doing this for your friends best interest and then she will understand.
2007-02-12 06:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my friends new that about my boyfriend i would want them to tell me. If my friends boyfriend was doing that to my friend i would tell them.
I think what you have to do is sit down with your friend, perhaps have a few of you and just be honest with her. Tell her what you saw and hopefully she will come to her senses and leave him. She might be angry with you at first, but don't hate her for it. She would more then likely be more embarrassed.
Good luck
2007-02-12 06:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How many of us here have a faithful boyfriend?"
**she raises hand**
"Not so fast (insert name here)!"
Seriously though, she needs to know. However, only tell her what you and your friends KNOW, not what you don't. Tell her what you see and hear, and let her draw her own conclusion. Otherwise, she'll shoot you back with an "But you don't know him like I do, you're misinterpreting it, he would never cheat on me!"
Give her only the direct facts, and let her investigate.
2007-02-12 06:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would tell her. It's hard, but it's best that they know. I have had to tell my friends about their boyfriend. I think she would be more upset if she found out that you knew and never told her.
2007-02-12 06:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by valentyn_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are her friend so you should tell her. if she finds out on her own and finds out that you guys knew all along she's going to get mad and she'll even break her friendship with you guys because you are her friends and you didn't tell her so that will make her think that you guys were alright with it all along...so tell her if she doesn't believe you well then let her find out on her own but you warned her...or even better tell her and prove it to her make it see it with her own eyes...then she'll believe you...but my advice is to tell her..If you consider yourself her true friend tell her the truth...
2007-02-12 06:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mari_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her "listen i know this is something u don't want to hear but i think a friend should be the one to tell u not a stanger...and then just tell her it's goin to be hard and it's wonna hurt her but u need to tell her before someone else does good luck hun!
2007-02-12 06:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by *girl* w/ *no name* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friends are you not to have told her the first time you saw this??? I would tell her straight out and then kick his a*s for her!!
2007-02-12 06:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i think as her frien you should let her know because wouldnt you want to know if this was happening to you? she might deny it though it could cause some problems if shes really into him
2007-02-12 06:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Daniela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋