I have a 8-1/2 month old baby girl, and i am pregnant again. Dont know what to do, my husband says....?

Question

that it is too soon to have a second one right now.

Answer 1

Hey, that happened to us. We weren't ready for our 3rd, but that's what was in the cards, so we dealt with it and shes beautiful. It all works out.

Anyway, Its good when they are close in age, shell have a playmate.

Answer 2

Kids are bless! Happiness! You should be happy about your second child!

My sister-in-law was in the same place as you, when the second child came. She thought it was really too soon for a second child that period, but after she gave birth and the two little girls were growing together, she realized that this is easier for the kids, too. There needs are almost the same and you don't have to get through it after years again... (now she has 3 children and she is only 29. But she is really happy and i admire her!! She was born to be a mother!!)

Some times I think that there are women who get pregnant but they didn't plan to. What if some day you hear someone knocking your door, you open but you see nobody but a baby in a basket on the stairs. Is it something you planned? Of course not. But you don't ignore the baby, it's a life! How about YOUR own child then?

Sorry for making you feel any inconvenience. I'm just very sensitive about the babies... May God helps you take the right decision! And always remember that if you follow God's will, He will be by your side, you are not alone!

Answer 3

My babies are 18 months apart...I intentionally got pregnant when my first was 10 months old because I am older and didn't feel comfortable waiting. It is hard to have 2 so young, but not impossible. There are many advantages to having them close in age...they will enjoy playing together, you will be done with certain things like diapers earlier than if you waited, etc. It may have been too soon in some ways but it is what it is and DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT ABORTION! How could you live with that??? And after this baby is born USE CONTRACEPTION. Many a horror has been inflicted on the unborn and the recently born because of unwanted pregnancy.

Answer 4

I had a 5 1/2 month old when I found I was pregnant again. We were trying to be careful, but accidents happen...which became a blessing! I'm lucky because they're both girls...so it has its advantages...My girls still share clothes. Anything I buy for my oldest can always be worn months later...so it's like a 2-for-1 deal! Another advantage I've had is that my younger has a vocabulary that would probably put most 21-month olds to shame...but it's because she's keeping up with her older sister (who will be 3 this month). She also has already started the potty-training process months ago because she sees her sister doing it and wants to be a big girl too. They are very close emotionally, and everyone who has talked to me that had a sibling very close in age said that even later in life, they were still very close. I'm going to be glad to have that for my girls.

I was frustrated too, but it does have a light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak, because of the advantages. It is difficult under some circumstances, but you'll get your child-rearing all done with quicker. =) I was so scared when I had my girls so close in age, but now I wouldn't trade it for the world. Keep your head up and look forward to the little blessing on the way!! =)

Answer 5

It looks as it you only have 2 choices, I would not assume to make them for you, but having been there and done that let me tell you there are hard days and there are easy days. Being close in age..they nap at the same time, they if the same sex, can wear a lot of the same clothes (not necessarily right away but when they are toddlers) I currently only buy a wardrobe and a bit..extra socks and underwear and we share it all. My kids all have a friend to play with at all times (We move a lot and it was nice) I have the right toys and no need to put the smaller pieces away as there are none yet..I use cloth diapers...saves me lots on disposable and since I do a load a day it did not take me any longer to do a load of diapers each night before bed. (500.00 dollars and I am set until they potty train as opposed to 75-90 dollars a month) I breast fed my oldest until 13 months and then she went to milk and then I breast fed my youngest saved on formula...I already had all the baby equipment so no extra cost there..Just spent a little extra energy getting use to 2 under the age of 2 at the same time. However, I used the dame energy getting use to 1 when we had our 3rd child and she is 3 years younger than the 2 that are close. Good Luck...but I would not have changed anything.

Answer 6

That's tough. You're the only one that can decide what to do. Think about what you want and need. The timing is different for everyone. My mom had five kids, most of them pretty much one right after another.

Things to think about: can you handle it financially? Physically? How much help do you have from family and friends, as far as babysitting goes? Was your first pregnancy really difficult for you, or not so difficult?

Ask your husband why he thinks it's too soon, and talk it over with him. It's not unusual to have kids close together, but he may not be aware of that: he may be worried about your health, or that you won't be able to take care of both kids adequately. Have a two-way discussion with him about this--communication is important! Don't feel like you have to have the baby--or have to not have the baby. Just take some time to think about what's most important to you. You'll be the one having it and taking care of it the most! Good luck!

Answer 7

I have three kids 4 1/2 2 1/2 and 13 months. The last two are 17months apart. I freaked out when I was pregnant since my youngest was only 9 months old. My husband was a little scared too, but he never showed it, just reassured me that everything would be all right. It is scary, but it is so worth it and it gets easier. I wouldn't trade it for the world. If you were going to have more kids anyway you will just be done sooner. take care.

Answer 8

I don't know what to tell you! I honestly would keep the baby, though! Because my husband & I have been trying for over 2 years now and we still haven't gotten pregnant! Be grateful that you have a wonderful daughter and another one on the way! Maybe you could talk to your husband! If you really want this second baby then just tell your husband! If he really loves you then he won't make you get rid of it! Whatever you do, I hope you have no regrets! Take care of the baby girl...you are so lucky! Good luck with everything...

Answer 9

I feel for you. I can imagine this must be hard for you and your family. If I were you I would ask myself this question: Is there plans for more children in the future? If the answer is yes then why not go ahead and have the second child now. You already have all the baby essentials you need, not to mention the experience you have already gained with the first child. Your children would be very close in age, but with that they will also be very close friends. I have two children and I can tell you that when they get older it is easier with two. They play together and keep each other occupied, which gives me and my husband time for each other. I would focus on the positive side, keeping in mind that they grow up so fast!

Answer 10

first off, congrats.
having a new baby is a good thing.
but can you handle it? are you prepared.? what do you think about it?
i have an 8 month old daughter as well and i had a great challenge on my hands. she was/is hard work. if i had another child now, it would be really hard, but i would get through it. it would kill me, or you for that matter.

talk it over with your husband. he says its too soon, but does that mean that hes not going to support this pregnancy or this baby?
you guys will figure it out together. just dont get too worked up and stressed out for the babies and your healths stake.
good luck!

Answer 11

In a perfect world...sure, it's probably too soon.

Let's see though, your 1st will be 15 months old. She seems tiny and so dependant now, but by the time #2 comes along she'll be walking, eating on her own, and playing and discovering. She'll be challenging in different ways than now, but surely more independant.

Look at your daughter...imagine life without her.

Now imagine the new baby (regardless of the arrival time).

I don't see any options except one. Thank God for the new blessing. Good luck to you and your husband.