I would think women would want a guy to offer to do these things, but not to insist on them? Am I right?
2007-02-12 05:59:43 · 21 answers · asked by doooooob o 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
OK so I should do these things but pretend I don't care if she gives something in return?
2007-02-12 06:10:33 · update #1
Right. But you are expecting anything in return, are you?
2007-02-12 06:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other girls and sometimes it re-assures a girl that he won't ' expect' any more than friendship later. Now I have heard some girls say 'I offered to pay and he only insisted once!" and "I ended up paying!". So it depends on the girl. I think if the guy does pay the first time over her offering to pay, he ought to suggest going 'dutch' next time. That way it'll let her off the hook and the guy, until and if they become serious.
2007-02-12 06:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by La Cicada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is is not annoying if he if offering to do these things because he is a nice guy. However, it is annoying if the guy expects something in return, other than just a nice dinner. I love a man to offer, although I don't always want him to follow through. There is something to say for a man offering to take care of you!
2007-02-12 08:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by anonymousenlightenedgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I don't want any man to think I am less than him. For instance, I cannot afford to pay for the meals, I cannot drive as safe as he can. I believe in 50/50.
If I cannot afford to go to expensive restaurant everytime, he should not complain, because in general women earn less than men. And also, if it's 50/50, he should not expect anything in return.
2007-02-12 09:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 14:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by condon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't annoy me if he OFFERS to drive or pay. However, you used the word INSISTS. I have dated guys who make a big deal out of it, even after we've had a couple of dates, and even if it makes more sense if I pay or drive. Then it annoys me.
I also don't expect a guy to pay. If we have dinner together, when the bill comes, I pull out my purse. If he says, "don't worry about it," I say, "Thanks, I'll get the next one" (well, only if I WANT a next one).
2007-02-12 12:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to paying for the meal, I wouldn't be annoyed if he insisted. But I wouldn't try to get it out of him. When it comes to driving, he would have to insist! I can't drive *sobs*
2007-02-12 17:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by filia_san 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if the way he insisted on doing these things was kind of funny and charming. If somehow he could make it seemed as if he was being protective of her or wanted to love her.
2007-02-12 07:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so old fashioned, I would be personal offended by paying for everything, and I am a woman.
To be honest, it is the same thing when you go out with the girls, and just have some girl friend fun time, and pay for my own meal and own way.
With a date, it would be an insult, I dont sleep with my girlfrineds, and why should my date expects me to sleep with him, when I have to pay my own way. By the way, I am married, and my date is my own husband. Married couples also need to date! ONly each other!
2007-02-12 07:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most women don't think it's annoying. Actually, we can think the guy is a real gentleman. Mainly when he does these kind things naturally ... without showing like she could owes him something because of his behaviour.
It's only about being kindly and polite, that's all!
2007-02-12 06:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Virtua 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I dont get annoyed if someone insists on paying, just as long as they dont accuse me of using them later.
2007-02-12 06:04:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋