I just can't understand why it is that when I meet gay women, at first they are really cool with me and we talk and have a great conversation, then the time comes when they find out I'm straight, it's like I never see or hear from them again. Or if I do, there is a measurable distance between us. Like there is no way we can be real friends. Why do some gay men just HATE on women, even when we could be a fabulous f*g hag, they just don't even get that far with us? I feel that in this time, when people are debating whether or not gays have the same rights as heteros (which they should!!), why do gays distance themselves from those of us that don't even want to separate them from the "rest" of us?
2007-02-12 05:53:55 · 13 answers · asked by lanibear55 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First I should calrify that I do have gay male friends, I was really posing the question more about gay women not being closer to me. It doesn't have anything to do with being annoying - I have many friends, I know how to act for goodness sakes!! I think there is something else that just keeps me from a deeper connection with gay women - I just questioned it today - I did not want to be insulted by "Evan" or anyone else....
2007-02-12 07:36:28 · update #1
I have friends that are straight and gay, I am straight, I don't really even think about someone's sexuality as far as being friends or not. Unless you want to sleep with them, what does it matter?
Honestly, I have never had the problems you are talking about.
I wonder with the womyn you are talking about, if it is where you are meeting them? Could they maybe be thinking of you as a potential partner and when you can't be, not interested?
Maybe too that it just doesn't click, or you just don't have much in common with them (that would happen with straight or gay ppl).
Keep trying, you will find someone with similar likes, interests, etc if you don't give up.
As far as the guys are concerned, if they are jerks like that, and dislike ppl because of their gender, why would you want to be friends with them, anyway?
take care and good luck.
2007-02-12 06:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mary K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why this happens. In the case of some gay guys, they really don't even like women as friends. As far as the women are concerned, I don't have a clue.
2007-02-12 06:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't, at least it isn't for me. I have a huge number of straight friends (primarily males), many for quite a few years. I've never lost a friend to being gay (I am male) though I suppose I might have failed to find some friends due to it -- but if so, I never knew it.
Reyn
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2007-02-12 07:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree. I met this one lady who was going through a hard time because her ex took her son out of state. We got to be friends & only after 3 months did she tell me she was a lesbian. It didn't matter to me, we're still friends. I also know many more gay men & I think they're great
2007-02-12 06:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) I really think it's you. I have a lot of straight friends, and most gay people that I know have straight friends.
2) I avoid "...Hags" because they ALWAYS eventually get drunk and hit on one of us. But just straight women... i have lots of those in my life.
2007-02-12 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I'm straight, hetero and in a monogamous marriage and my wife and I have many friends who are homosexual (M & F) and they all know that we are straight and accept us openly.
Maybe it's the crowd that you've been with? I can't really answer that. I can only go by my experience.
2007-02-12 06:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't experienced that. Perhaps you have mostly been meeting shallow people who are only interested in finding partners, not friends.
I've known a some men that had no friendship hangups just because they were gay and I wasn't.
2007-02-12 06:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have bad luck but I have not had that kind of bad luck, I have more than one gay friend and they do several straight friends.
2007-02-12 06:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like a drunk can't stand being around people who don't drink. They have a guilty conscience. THey know down deep that homoswexuality is not healthy.
2007-02-12 06:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by zeepogee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it could be you don't come across as someone that is "gay friendly"
2007-02-12 06:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋