I have been having a difficult time coping about an ex. I am over him but not what he did to me. I knew this guy for two years, and he seemed so loving and caring, but he needed help or so I thought. He was depressed and told me he wanted to commit suicide and I wold him he needed help, but he only wanted my help. This was an ongoing issue and the times when he really felt that way, he would tell me if i called the police he would go thru with it. So, I felt I had no choice but to help him as best I could. Well, I found out he kept a secret that he had a child w/ aone night stand before we met. He was ashamed, so I helped him come to terms with it only for him to leave me for the monther of his child. Whats worst was he was so cold, told me never to call him again. He got caught seeing her.But now, all the suicide threats he made came rushing back, knowing how he made me feel, all the worrying, anxiety, panic attacks.He won't confront me & acts like what he did to me never happened
2007-02-12 05:47:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel like he got away with so much:( And the last email I recieved from him was if I cant deal with it on my own that I need to get help from a psycholigist:(( I couldnt beleive he could say these words. He is an educated guy, a teacher. How could he say this to me after all I did for him. All I do is cry.:(( He did this to me and there is not one single thing I can do about it. I dont know how to cope now
2007-02-12 05:49:48 · update #1
Forget the asshole! Your better off without him. Don't cry because he is gone, cry if he wasn't gone. He is not worth the cost of the bullet to shoot himself! Go out and find a new man that doesn't have mental issues.
2007-02-12 07:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by TennesseeGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did the only thing you could do to cope with his unhealthy behaviour. You tried to help him and he didn't value it at all. Going out of this situation in which you are now can't be easy, but try to get help, talk with a friend or someone in your family... And give it time. It's all about learning to live with it, and going on, not let it drag you over and over to this painful moment.
2007-02-12 14:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did use you. I know its hard to let go of the person, but not the issues they left you with. There is a book that I might recommend for you, its called "The Heartache No One Sees" by Sheila Walsh! It has helped me get over and let go of many issues much like yours in my life!!
2007-02-12 13:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylynn M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
..hi..
how can you say he got away with anything when he left so much of himself for those of you to be confused about..?
there is lots of room in this triangle to become confused about.
and for sure the man with the secret has lots to fear. but isn't that why he keeps his secrets..?
from your perspective which can not ever do justice to what are his own personal experiences and realizations ... he is a child about to be trampled by those who have bigger secrets to keep.
i don't wish to diminish what has become of your own experiences in this but his gifts to you should be indicative of a person who saw in you something he could not see in others...
i wonder what was this realization and what are the conditions to its creativities......
be well all ways
2007-02-12 14:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuck!
He's right, you need help.
You enabled his crap, and you put someone else before yourself.
It's OK to need help.
Hey, at least you have as the excuse that you're female. We have been raised that way, girl! I don't need to know you or your parents to know that almost all "modern" Western societies shape us that way.
But men don't usually give women clsure, while women swear they need it.
You will have to get help to close this off, is all.
You'll be OK.
2007-02-12 13:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he used you. you need to move on. he is not someone you want helping you anyway. go to the doctors and get some help. You need to get control of yourself before it get worse. I am sure you will find a nice person once you get yourself under control.
2007-02-12 13:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new e-mail address. Don't even bother to check the old one. If you try to block him he can always get himself a new e-mail address. Get a new phone number too.
2007-02-12 14:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mike D. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.thesecret.tv and view the film "The Secret".
2007-02-12 14:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by uwaiu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with seeing a psychologist
2007-02-12 14:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not reading all that. But good luck!!
2007-02-12 13:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋