I just went to go get my husbunds gym clothes to wash them and found a condomn in his gym bag, it wasnt there before, what do i do? How do i confront him on this?
2007-02-12 05:35:44 · 23 answers · asked by brandywine840213 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By th way I am 3 months pregnant.
2007-02-12 05:36:21 · update #1
You need to ask your husband about the condom. Listen to his response and watch him very carefully. If he hesitates to answer the question, he is lying. If he tries to turn it around on you as to why you have to accuse him of this or that, he's lying. Watch his eyes and make him look you in yours. Most of the time when a guy carries condoms and he's married or has a pregnant wife at home, it would only mean that he is cheating or intends to. Thank you and good luck.
2007-02-12 05:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One assumes that you don't use condoms in your marital sex life. Taking this as a yes, I would say that he is either having a sexual relationship elsewhere, or is planing on doing so. If you don't smoke do you carry matches around just in case you may need them?
If you confront him he will just deny any wrong doing, and may even manage some lame excuse. If you think that your marriage is being threatened hire a PI, otherwise calmly put it in his hand with a warning that you are not stupid, and that if you can prove he is being unfaithful then he is out on the street with his belongings!!
2007-02-12 05:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix him a wonderful dinner, and ask how his day went. Then tell him how your day went say it all sweet. Then you can calmly say oh by the way honey I was washing your gym clothes and I found a condom in your gym bag. Then you can say you know we are pregnant. Be calm when you ask him what was it doing in there. If he can't answer then tell him by the way your plate was full of poison. You can really just spike it with ex-lax.
2007-02-12 05:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you get a lawyer. then poke holes in it with a needle and never let him touch you again. Assume nothing if he's got a rubber he figures he's going to need it and why? Because he is so madly in love with you that no woman in the world could turn his head or give him anything that you don't already give him in triplicate? You do take care of all his needs right you do take him to his fantasies right? You are the best love machine wife the known world has ever met right?
2007-02-12 05:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men have one rule deny deny deny. You need to have real proof before accusing him. If you accuse him now he will just cover his steps better or stop at least for a little while. Start following him or ask a friend to follow him to and from the gym. They should prob brign a camera. Good Luck I would want to know the truth if it was me.
2007-02-12 12:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most would assume that he is intending on having an affair with you with someone from the gym but it could also be possible that it fell out of his work attire/wallet just ask him about it and gauge his response. You're his wife you will know if he's lying or not.
2007-02-12 05:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you deserve to know what it's doing there.
I'm not to ask you to be a fool - but I once knew of a person who would put condoms into people's purses/bags as a joke. A rather bad one, but a joke. She caused some terrible fights.
I think you should at least ask. Watch his body language. Don't be stupid, but I would at least give him a chance to explain.
2007-02-12 05:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be totally insensitive, but throw his stuff out in the yard and put the condom on top. Or say, um, you know we're already pregnant? Men that carry condoms when thier woman is preggers are trash. Its going to hurt, but he will keep hurting you if you are sweet enough to let him have 'another chance"
and go get tested hon.
it may be embarrassing, but it's better than suffering because he is a jerk
2007-02-12 05:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has he ever owned one before? Maybe he got it to use with you,Why do people always assume someone is cheating just because you found a condom.He could have just picked it up off the dressing room floor and stuck it in his bag.( not used ) >Be very careful how you approach this. I would just say to him honey i got your clothes out to wash them and guess what i found.See what he says and go from there .GOOD LUCK
2007-02-12 05:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by lawson403 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would poke a hole in it (dead center of the tip) and start filing the divorce paperwork. If you don't use rubbers at home, why would he need on on his bag, unless he's getting some on the side. Wait for his new baby's birth announcement, then greet him with the papers.
2007-02-12 05:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋