I have an 8 month old little girl that just started in my in-home daycare. She has severe seperation anxiety and stranger anxiety. She cries off and on (mostly on) for the entire time she is here, anywhere from 4-9 hours a day. Nothing I do seems to help her, and it makes no difference if I hold her or not, she still cries. Is there anything I can do to ease this transition for her? I don't want her to be miserable here! Please keep in mind that I do have other children to care for too.
2007-02-12 04:26:47 · 11 answers · asked by totspotathome 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Definitly a tough call, you certainly don't want to carry her all over then she is going to become dependent on that. I think the mother should of spent more time getting her use to you and your house, before she left her there permanently. Definilty try the blanket, try playing music for her, maybe have the mother bring a toy that she enjoys playing at home. Good luck
2007-02-12 04:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have mom bring some pictures of herself and you can post them on a low wall or in a child proof photo album for her. Also, make sure mom is bringing babies favorite blankie or a security item from home. Is there a pillow at home she always snuggles? Always make sure mom is doing a quick drop off in the morning. A prolonged drop off of long goodbyes and crying can make the baby think that mom will be back very soon and can keep her crying for her. A quick drop off, maybe some pictures of mom, suprising the baby with silliness or laughing or a new snack might help. I feel for you here, I worked in a daycare for 3 years. (I was the one who had separation anxiety from my children..) Hope this helps!
2007-02-12 12:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the Mom bring a blanket that smells like Mom (She can sleep with the blanket for a couple of nights to get her scent of the blanket). You can put the blanket near the baby as you console her to help her feel more at ease. You could also have the family make her a tape recording of them reading, singing, talking etc to her. Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 12:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by sm2f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably is confused and worried that you will not be with her 24/7. Give her some time. If the problem proceeds than maybe stop the daycare or get more help so you can be with her more often.
2007-02-12 12:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by InLoveWithHim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they make little blanket dolls that have a wool head and the parents are supposed to keep it by them at all times for about a day or so. the wool picks up the scent of the parents and is supposed to comfort the child when the parents aren't there. i think they were called snodels, but i'm not sure.
2007-02-12 12:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to take time for her to get used to being away from her mommy.
Do you have a baby carrier (sling, kozy, etc). I would think that being carried by you and being close to you is going to help her out. Does she have a special toy or blanket that she uses at home?
2007-02-12 12:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Angela G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shell get used to you. if its driving you crazy, i suggest you get rid of her. you dont her bringing negative energy around the other kids.
but if you think you can deal with the crying for a couple days, more power to you. play games with the other kids off in a corner. shell probably want to join in and crawl up to you.
good luck
2007-02-12 16:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by ashley d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a mother that holds her baby too much. And her solution to a break is to leave her with you. Put her down, put things around her to gain her attention. Don't pick her up when she is crying. I know but this is not cruel. So talk to her sweetly and try not to be effected by her crying. She will not cry for long and will cry for less as each day goes by. If you can find something that keeps her interest music, a color or toy when you will begin to win the battle. Good luck.
2007-02-12 12:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Do you have a baby swing or a bouncy play thing(with toys on it) to stand in ? This can soothe her and she may learn your home is fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She can even get in a walker now with a toy bar!!!!!!!I ran a in home daycare for 2 other children and they loved my baby's areolsaucer and walker and swing!!!!!
2007-02-12 12:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently if you put them in the freezer for 25 secs that calms them down.
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/prince-edward-island/story/2007/01/30/hardy-sentence.html
2007-02-12 12:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Oscar LeRoy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋