i have been engaged to my fiance for about two years now and i can honestly say i love her but i am having problems deciding if she is worth the wait. i know that it's gonna be at least another two years before we can get married and i feel as though i am starting to get old. i really wanna get on with my life and i have a friend that would be more than willing to settle down and have kids with me. should i wait to be with the woman i love or should i leave my fiance to be with a woman who has the same goals in life as me?
2007-02-12 04:26:15 · 7 answers · asked by scott s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like you need to find yourself before being with either one of these women.
2007-02-12 04:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Inez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the commercial with the 3 brides...Mom which should I marry? Chloe, Laura or Ashlee? thats not real life. Neither is this situation. The woman you are with deserves to be with someone who thinks she is worth the wait. The woman in the wings deserves to be with someone who doesn't consider her the 1st alternate. And you, you might want to spend a little time figuring out why you are living your life through other people...I dont mean that to be mean...you seem to be saying if she this then I can that....and if she that then I can something else.... as if you are an afterthought. You sound restless....what is it you are pursuing? Cause trust me you wont be happy ever if you can't be happy now. I'll be happy when is about tomorrow...and tomorrow never comes. Figure out what makes you happy now....make sure your own life is full and that you have something to bring into a relationship.....its a lot of hard work.
2007-02-12 04:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... to be completely honest, I think that if you are asking this question, thinking about leaving your fiance for a "friend" who's more than willing to settle down with you, someone who is not only with someone else in a commited relationship but engaged to be married... you need to go and sit your fiance down and have a serious talk with her. First off, your "friend" is a pathetic excuse for a woman. I'm sure she's the one who you talk to when you don't know what to do too... well, what she's doing is listening to all you have to say, then in return, saying everything you want to hear to make her seem like this oh so great woman who will pop out some babies, anything you want. This is because realisticly, you are with someone else and are off limits, therefore making this a challenge for your "friend". I'm guessing she has maybe a few insecurities and has been jealous of your fiance for some time. Now she feels like the "chosen" one because she agrees with everything you say... because she knows thats what you want to hear. My guess is your fiance will find out about this and feel really betrayed. Here you are engaged to her but thinking about possibly leaving her to go have some babies with a friend. I thought marriage and family was supposed to be about love... You've gotten yourself in a really sticky situation... just remember this, once you hurt someone to the point they feel betrayed and their trust taken advantage of, right under their nose, it's really hard to get that back and for those feelings to go away. Good luck and i hope your fiance knocks your "friend" out cold.
2007-02-12 06:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by tAt2dCrAzYBiTcH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not marry at all. If your not completely and utterly in love with either one why would you want to get married? Sorry, but your setting yourself up for a bigger problems down the road.Bringing kids into the mix is just wrong.Good Luck!
2007-02-12 04:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even considering the other woman, then break the engagement. You are too immature for marriage. Marriage takes patiences and you obviously do not have that.
2007-02-12 04:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goals are important but...if you don't love this person let me tell ya....it will feel like ten lifetimes when you're in the til death til you part place. I'd wait.
2007-02-12 04:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the women you can see spending the rest of your life with..
2007-02-12 04:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋