He moved out but says he still loves me and cares about me he is just not in love with me...we make love but he will not kiss me...I really need help on this matter as well..
2007-02-12 04:25:07 · 19 answers · asked by hurtalloveragainks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he want to have relations not a relationship. move on. he will
2007-02-12 04:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me...Im a guy...with my wife...after being with her for years...I could not understand the reaction in me when I loved her also...but then looking back...I could see that I was unhappy with her...for several reasons...at the time...still lovingher...I did not know what the issues were - deep inside. Now I do. I should have gotten into counseling with her to discover the REAL problems I was having deep inside me with her. She was unhappy and I didn't know it...she didn't voice her emotions well...still doesn't years later...we were still having sex each day...but the passionate kissing came to an end just like you describe...this lack of passion indicates something is not working between you two....get a professional involved if you cannot address this with your guy - it is a sensitive area for a guy and must be approached carefully.
2007-02-12 12:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by RealEYES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's interpetation would be as follows...
1. I've found someone else and I'm ready to move on and so should you, but I'll be around occasionally to have guilt/obligation free sex.
2. I'm leaving because I don't love you anymore. I want you to know that I'll always have sex with you, but don't expect anything other than sex to come from it.
I don't mean to sound harsh about it, but that's my take on why he's exhibiting this behavior. My recommendation would be to cease having sex with this man. He's already made the decision to not be a part of your life, don't keep giving him the fringe benefits.
2007-02-12 12:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, before, I screwed people when I needed to, only never kiss their lips. I never used the L word, tho. I think, he just meant what he said. He cared about you as far as friends go. And about the sex bit, well... if you're available and willing, and he feels the need, well... I spose he would take the advantage. In a sense, you ARE being used.
So, please consider this. He is now a good friend, not a lover. If you're good with friends w/ benefit, then go for it. Otherwise, it's time to tell him no.
2007-02-12 12:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by babyLemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't love you then he is just in the relationship for the sex. do you really want to be with someone who doesn't love you or do you want to be happy knowing that your partner loves you as much as you do him? If he is not kissing you its because he is not in love with you. Kissing is a very personal thing and he doesn't do it because he is not in love. do yourslef a favour and find someone who really loves you for who you are not how you are in bed. You will only start to dislike yourself. Life is too short not to be happy, one sided relationships never work. As your heart what it really wants and go with your instincts. Take care HEather
2007-02-12 12:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the old ,clean breaks are best .Take time.Remember who you are! Live well, be self sufficient. Decide exactly how a partner,that values you and cherishes you,would kiss you...
Bring on the new! Don't settle for less! How exciting! much love to you sis...M
2007-02-12 12:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by M-word 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask him if he's interested in working on the "in love" part. If he doesn't want to work on it, by counseling or self-help books, or workshops or something, then tell him that you aren't going along for just the 'sex' 'caring' part of the deal. You want it all or nothing, and don't accept less, you deserve better.
2007-02-12 12:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over. He must be seeing someone else. I found the lack of kissing is an indicator that they have feelings for someone else and they feel like its cheating to kiss you. It does seem baffling that they will have sex with you and not kiss you, but that seems to be the rational.
2007-02-12 12:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved out? Yet you are still providing him your goodies? What men would not take advantage of that? Time to wake up and start appreciating yourself for all you have to offer someone who is worth it.
2007-02-12 12:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he loves using you, and nothing else. Unless you want to be his toy, move on and find a man who loves you.
2007-02-12 12:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tom A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is he does not care about you! Hes telling u what you want to hear to get what he wants. I know its hard but u should let him go.
2007-02-12 12:30:09 · answer #11 · answered by paige1822 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋