I have never had sex b4. Im told that it hurts from some poeple and that it doent from others. I dont even no what to do really! I need help. The Guy that im with wants to have sex but what if im bad at it.... plz help me
2007-02-12 04:23:11 · 18 answers · asked by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let him be on top for the first time, then you don't have to worry about being bad. It can hurt the first time, you may even bleed a little. Just do what feels right, and be safe.
2007-02-12 04:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well, from the sounds of it, you don't seem to be ready for sex... however, I will give you an answer being the nice person I am...
Yes, it does hurt the first couple of times... sit down and tell your guy your concerns, if he's a good person, he'll listen to what you have to say and maybe even wait until you're ready...Also, you can't expect that since you have never one it before, you're going to have a mind blowing experiance... Just like everything else, practice makes perfect... For the first time, just make sure your guy treats you right and goes gently and if you tell him to stop, he'd better stop... Make sure you take lots of precautions, unless you want a kid... pbut it sounds like you're too young for that now... Make sure he's the right guy, do you REALLY love him? Can you see you two still together in 5 years? If you arent ready to have sex with him, he should respect that. However some guys can be complete jerks and go and cheat on you for sex... So guys will also just use you for sex, so make sure he really loves you as well before you jump into anything...so make sure he's the one, and that you're ready... and if he's 'the one' he should be good enough to wait for you...
and rememer:
*!*!* DONT feel pressured to have sex with him... Only you know when you're ready, and if you feel you arent, or have more concerns than reasons to have sex with him, DONT... You'll only regret it later. If he tries to pressure you into it, or wont wait... you need a new guy*!*!
2007-02-12 04:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? Second, if you're asking yahoo answers what sex is like then you don't need to be even thinking about it. Ask you're self this is the guy you're with a virgin? Are y'all going to stay together for the rest of yalls life's? In this day and time its so hard for young girls. If i was you i would do a little reading about sex (( not porn wise)). Yes it does hurt for some girls but every women is different. Just take you're time growing up the world isn't going to go anyway. Hope this helped
2007-02-12 05:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can say that I know how you feel! When I was 18 I had sex for the first time...First and for most, I wish I had of waited! The guy treated me GREAT up to that point (I had a crush on him as long as I can remember, and we were good friends for many years). It didn't hurt to the point of scream and cry, but it definatly wasn't a good feeling! After we did it he started to act a little weird...we did it two more times and then he got in a huge fight with me because I caught him cheating! He said terrible things to me, and the relationship as well as the friendship was ruined! A few years later we met up and tried to put it in the past and be friends again, but neither of us could forget about it. I hopped from one bad relationship to aqnother for a while after...Now I am engaged to a great guy and we have a 19mth old baby together (baby was planned), and I couldn't be happier, my only regret, giving my verginity to the wrong guy! Trust me, if you are having questions like this, WAIT! When the time is right, you will just know! Don't ruin something good this way...and if this guy is the 'right' guy to give your virginity to, then he won't mind waiting (as long as it takes). There are other things you can do besides sex to make each other feel good!
2007-02-12 04:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by stangwoman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, if you're being pressured for sex he's probably not really that into you.
I f you feel pressured and not ready to have sex, tell him so and do NOT do it.
And the fact that if it hurts or not depends on how tight you are .Doing Kegel exercises (squeezing those muscles together) tightens those muscles. It's best to not do them untill you're regularly having sex, or he'll never get it in !
And when you do them when you're have sex every day or whatever, you won't be as loose, which is a good thing...both you AND your guy will be able to feel more!
EDIT :::
Doing Kegels DURING sex feels great on his member, too, by the way !
2007-02-12 05:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is best for people who are in a committed relationship or are married. Thats when its the best and safest. Anything besides that and your taking a major risk. But we live in a society today where most people will take those risk knowing that their whole life can be at stake for a couple of minutes of pleasure. I'd say its not worth it and you seem way too young to be having sex anyways.
2007-02-12 13:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ace of Blackness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not be having sex if you do not think you are ready. Sex is a beautiful thing and you should not be pressure into having sex. Sex for the first time can yes be a little painful. But if it is with the one you love then it is worth it.
2007-02-12 05:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tamalee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy wants to have sex then go for it but only if u love him, and u feel as tho u r ready for it. for me it didt hurt but for my friends it didnt. everyone is different. it doesnt matter if ur bad at it because its ur first time jus make sure the guy knows that its ur first time and to go slow. dont worry about if its good or not.
2007-02-12 04:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by help me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he knows you are a virigin he is not going to be expecting you be like a porn star. A good way to learn is to watch some porn. It may sound weird to you but it will help you learn some basic stuff.
2007-02-12 08:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋