I am just curious as to what are some reasons a person would leave a child, under 1 yr of age, overnight somewhere. Not being judgemental, just wondering about others ideas and thoughts.
2007-02-12 04:21:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
To answer the others question, just leave the baby overnight, not abandon forever and ever.
2007-02-12 04:28:53 · update #1
To the one person that said to try it sometime if I am a mother, I am a mom. I have 6 children. :) I don't leave my children that are newborns with anyone other than me or dad for the entire first year. Not saying it is right for everyone, but it is right for my family. Just wondering others standpoint and looking into human nature.
2007-02-12 04:37:45 · update #2
Well I am a single mom of a 5 month old baby girl. She's only been out overnight once... I think about it, but worry about her. Even the one night I left her at her god mothers. It's about getting out and taking some time out for you. Some women go crazy and do harsh things to their kids instead of ask for help or ask to get a break. I don't think it's a good thing to do on a constant basis. But I do feel like it's good to do every once in a while.
2007-02-12 04:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by qtiequawn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I going to hit on a Sore Toe.
We see many times in society of babies being abused by the mother/father. Not too long ago a woman put her baby in the microwave.
We have to ask; "Why"? This is actually hard to answer as there are probably many reasons. One I feel may top the list is Anger. But, what causes the anger? Babies cry and they love to poop regular. "IF", a person become a little edgy there could be terrible consequences and it mostly for the baby.
If, a person starts to have this type of anger which they feel is becoming out of control, they may need to get some time away from the baby to unwind instead of foolishly react. This includes mother or father and one or the other as in do not have one try to keep the baby around one having the problem.
Taking the baby to a "Trusted" family member or friend may be a very good idea! Take a break and love the baby the best way a person have to do this!
2007-02-12 12:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A newborn is not all inclusive of any child beneath a year of age. A newborn is just that, a newborn. No, I would not under any circumstances leave my NEWBORN overnight. Besides, it requires parents to be there constantly to feed, etc. However, a nine month old? Or even a six month old? It can be done easily. The child, chances are isn't needing you to feed ever 2-3 hours, and might be sleeping through the night. If they are sleeping soundly through the night, they don't even know that you are gone. I went out just the other week with my husband to watch the superbowl and left her in the care of a trusted sitter. the sitter did the same routine as me, fed her, diapered her, bathed her and put her to bed and the baby didn't even know that we weren't in the house. I could've stayed overnight even. Parents should, and could, get a break at that age. As long as the baby is being left with a loved one or trusted caregiver, it is just fine.
2007-02-12 13:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by MomofOneSpnkyGrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was never able to do it when my daughter was under 1 year. To be honest, as pathetic as this sounds, I've never left her anywhere overnight and she is 2 1/2. I've never had a need to and no one has ever offered. It's not that I have a problem with it, I have just never had the chance to. I may worry about her alot when she does start staying at other people's houses overnight. I don't think I'd ever leave a newborn or infant baby with someone overnight though. That a tender age and it takes ALOT of responsiblity that you can't always trust with everyone. That's just me though.
2007-02-12 12:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Alene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't leave my children under the age of 1 or 2 overnight anywhere. I guess if there was an emergency it would be alright. But I know my babies and there needs, nobody else does. I know what it means when they cry for whatever reason in their sleep. I would not want one of those needs ignored for any reason. Who else can care best for baby than the Mommy. And as far as going out to be an adult.......hey, it is more adult to be responsible and be the Mommy than it is to go play. I think that is selfish, all night is not needed to have fun and do something not child oriented. Babies are babies for a short time. You should enjoy them as babies, soon they will be trying on Independence and not want to be held as much. How sad to give that up to go party.
I am glad I never did those things when my children were babies.
2007-02-12 12:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by jointy j 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Parenting is a 24 hour per day 7 day per week job, taking and night off going away for a romantic, evening, or just taking a break and leaving the child in the care of a grandparent or other trust family member or friend. It is no big deal. Having a day or two to regroup and relax here and there will relieve a lot of stress and make you a better parent.
There are also many occasions that are not child friendly, weddings, funerals, a conference for work. It is fine to leave a child in the care of a trusted responsible person, one night here and there isn't going to hurt them.
2007-02-12 12:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not leave my five month old baby over night anywhere except her dads house on saturday nights and that is hard enough on me. I dont leave my baby unless its neccessary and I am usually very trusting to leave her with my mom or her dad and anyone else like my ex's mother in law is coming to calgary for a couople days and she is entitled to spend the day with her but that will bug me the whole time. I have no need to leave my baby overnight with someone else because I dont like to be away from her for so long..but I do need to leave her with her dad on saturday nights which is hard but nice for the break once in a while too.
2007-02-12 12:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needing a break? Needing an adults only night? An anniversery? Special occasion? Needing to reconnect with hubby? Severe illness? Multi-home family? All of these seem like good reasons to leave a child under the age of one with a family member or trusted friend.
2007-02-12 12:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where somewhere is! For me, I have left mine at grandmas house, for me and hubby to escape to a hotel one-night get away!!!!! If with someone they do not know well, then that is bad and I could not see a reason for that! Additional info., a newborn can be stressful and two parents deserve some alone time occasionally and my mother is well capable and just as much a mother as I am in taking care of my babies and children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am very thankful to have her as an ace in the hole!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-12 12:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by whoa,3boys! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am hoping that you are saying leaving them with someone...
well...i know i would leave my kids with my mom overnight for like my anniversary or a special night. My kids are now 7 and 4 and still, my hubby and I get maybe a total of 4 nights to ourselves a year! We need it...we need the break...we need to have quiet together time!
I see absolutely nothing wrong with it...it is healthy, not only for you, but for the child as well.
2007-02-12 12:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by k t 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋