I lost my best female friend when I got a girlfriend?

Question

I had a best friend of 10 years, since we were in high school. She is a girl and I'm a guy. We are now both out of college. We never dated or expressed interest in the other in that way, it was always brother and sisterly. Other girlfriends I've had have never understood the relationship. I was very close with this girl and would tell her everything, and we would hang out a lot. We talked daily and sometime I'd go over to visit with her family. I even gave her a key to my apartment so she could crash whenever I was out of town or whatnot since she was still living at home. I admit it, a lot of people question our relationship but I always saw her as a friend. My new girlfriend of a year now thought that I treated her like a girlfriend without the romantic stuff.My best friend would call me all the time, and she always felt like she should be numer 1 girl b/c we've been best friends for so long. She has since not talked to me in 5 months and won't return my calls or emails. What gives?

Answer 1

even though you guys were just friends you kinda weren't just friends. i've gone throught the same thing. i have a female best friend also and i got the same questions about our relationship. i think that she got very jealous about your new gf because she's gotten so much of your attention for so long and now your giving it to someone else...if the situation was reversed you'd probably feel the same way. just give her time. she can only accept that you have a gf now or give up your long lasting frienship!

Answer 2

There are three scenerios that could explain why your best friend is acting like this. The first, she's jealous of the fact that she doesn't see you and spend as much time with you as she used to. She feels like she's being put on the back burner after being number one for so long. Set up a time where you can hang out just the two of you without interruption so she knows that you still value her and that you're not taking her or the friendship for granted.

The second is that she probably senses something wrong with your current girlfriend, but doesn't know how to verbalize it without ticking you off.

The third is that she has developed romantic feelings for you. When a woman falls in love and another girl enters the picture before she can tell you how she feels, a sexual competition arises to levels that are out of this world. She probably feels like this girl stepped into her territory. No matter what you hear, it doesn't matter if the guy is just a friend or like a brother; women do NOT want to share a man with another woman. Hope this explains it. Many blessings.

Answer 3

She is in love! It could even be something that she didn't even realize until recently. You know the old saying that sometimes what your looking for you've had all along, you just couldn't see it. If you want to regain her friendship, you need to stop with the phone calls and emails and go visit her. Talk to your gf about it first. If she loves you and trust yiu then she should be strong enough to let you do this. I recommend taking her a single rose when you visit her, to kinda aid in breaking the ice. White or yellow though..they are both neutral colors...colors of friendship. Ask her what is bothering her so much...and talk it out. A friend like that can be harder to lose than a girlfriend.

Answer 4

are you sure your best friend thought of you as a brother??? It may have started out as such but maybe her feeling towards you have changed. maybe a face to face talk is needed, to clear the air.

Answer 5

She has developed feelings for you and donot know jow to deal with it because you have a girlfriend.

Answer 6

maybe she's jealous or doesnt want to hurt your new relationship. sounds like everyone needs to have a talk.