How do I deal with a bossy, nosy, & controlling roommate?

Question

I just recently moved into a shared apartment a week & 1/2 ago, & I was depressed & sick with a bad cold & bronchitis, & I couldn't enter or leave my bedroom without her barging in it, ininvited, telling me I need to clean it, & I have too much clutter. She takes it upon herself to start cleaning it, & I organize my room the way it makes ME happy, not others. Then, she demands an answer for why my room is not cleaned, & I tell her that it's because I've been very depressed & ill. She says, "Don't give me that excuse! When I'm depressed or sick that makes me clean up more." Well, that's her. I don't owe her an answer. She also put me under the impression that she was going to report me if my room wasn't clean. It's clean now. We each have our own room with our own lease. When I'm sick or depressed, I feel immoble & can't do much. By her invading my privacy, she was breaking the lease rules. The landlord understands if I'm too depressed to clean up b/c these are apts. for mentally ill.

Answer 1

Your roommate has NO BUSINESS in your room for any reason. If I understand your living arrangement, any time she comes into your room would be considered sexual harassment---she gets one warning then she gets reported to the landlord. You can be a slob whenever you want dear...thats the beauty of being an adult. The shared space in your apartment is a different story....I agree about the lock....get one.

Answer 2

If that's the case and they are apartments designed especially for the mentally ill, I'm sure it's safe to assume that your roommate is too, and she possibly has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder among a string of other things.

If this continues to happen, I would contact the landlord to request a transfer or a lock for your room so she can't come in. You don't owe her an answer, but try and understand that she's ill as well but in a different way, just as you can't help when you are feeling bad, she can't either.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

you need to ignore her at this point. if these are apartments for the mentally ill then consider that the next time she goes off in la la land. get lock for your door. see it you can move to a different place in the building.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Ask the landlord for another roommate.She seems too controlling.