My husband and I have been married for 2 years now, I'm 21 and he is 23. And I love him to death, he is extrememly attractive, and awesome in between the sheets. But lately (the past month or so) i'm just not interested in getting busy, I have to be really "hot" to even think of "doing it" My question basically is...is this normal? And does it happen to alot of women my age? What's the cure, cause it's killing him.
Thanks in advance :)
2007-02-12 04:12:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are losing interest because the sex has probably become boring. Try spicing things up with role plays, food, and different locations.
2007-02-12 04:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can answer the "is this normal" part. I friggin' hope so cause I am having the same difficulty. I've talked it over with the other married women in my life and they ALL were right ther with me. I was shocked and amazed!! None of them had any answers, but I can tell you that not being in the mood does not stop me from doing it with my husband. I may not be swingin' from the chandelier, but I need him to know he is still my everything, and for some reason that's the only thing men hear. As a fleeting thought perhaps some porn or the like to get us girls motivated? I believe it has a lot to do with not feeling sexy about ourselves anymore?Do you have kids 'cause typically I just blame everything on them. Don't give up girl, and you can bet I will be checkin' your answers frequently!
2007-02-12 04:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by wcampanile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a bit depressed or stressed about something this could cause this. We all go through this so don't think that you are alone. Talk to your doctor about it, maybe you just have a vitamine defficency, have a physical. books are a great resource of information and fun, put some fun into it and this may help. Ask him to play a game, call him at work and talk sexy to him, find something that really turns you on and do it with your partner. What turns you on movies or toys or the way he talks to you. think of a fantasy and work it out with him. Talk to a sex therapist, you may have a hormone in your body thats not producing these feelings, I had a relative with this problem and she just had to take a hormone ever couple of days to help her system want to. I hope this was of some help, take care Heather
2007-02-12 04:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My impression, there is little intimacy in the marriage. Sex only takes a marriage so far.
To be perfectly direct: what is really going with you? By the way marital sex is not always consistent. There are many factors that affect a woman’s sex drive. There is not enough information to pin point your issue.
It could be a message you are getting from your hubby and don't realize it. I also sense fear in your question: will I possibly loose my husband if I don't perform like usual? Do you think you marriage is conditional to good sex? Is this why you are getting worried?
Your question begets even more questions.
2007-02-12 04:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What my women and i do is keep things exciting. Answer is NO. If you really loved him as you say you do than you wouldn't have any problem. You wouldn't be able to get enough of him. Weather it be a kiss, a worm smile, a hug, or just a card. See showing love doesn't just mean in the sheets. There is so much more to a relationship than just SEX. Don't get me wrong it is all part of it but if that's what your relationship is based on that than you need to reevaluate it. Hope this helped you.
2007-02-12 04:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by russell c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. When I was around 21 I lost my libido for almost a year. I didn't even have an urge to masturbate(terrifying). There's no cure. You just gotta wait it out. Keep being intimate with your husband even if you don't really feel like doing "it".
2007-02-12 04:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal we all go thris sometimes for various reasons. You may just need to try some new things in bed or fantasies or spend some time together to connect maybe its time for a romantic vacation for the two of you. But definitely do not deny your man sex.
2007-02-12 06:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by ms_sweet_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to go through a "slump"! What the 2 of you need to do is focus on other aspects of your relationship besides the sex! Go on a nice romantic date, just the 2 of you. Talk, spend time together, and relax! It will fix itself if you work on the other things!
2007-02-12 04:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cure is you stop being selfish. You married a young, good looking man and expected him to remain faithful to you, and yet you deny him sex because you don't "feel" like it? Selfish.
You do it anyway. You make a point to stop sitting there waiting for "hot" to strike you and get into bed with your husband. Once things get rolling, you'll enjoy it.
2007-02-12 04:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am in the same boat, although my husband is older. (im 20 hes 34) and i have found the best way to overcome the problem is to be really relaxed. its not always possiable but i find that having a warm bath cuddled up to my hubby really helps! x
2007-02-12 04:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Me_B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋