what would you do if your over age (19) and the girl that you certainley and are 100% sure is the girl you want to spend your life time with its under age (16) and her parents have warned you to leave her alone not cuz they dont like you but simply because they think its not the right time. i am willin to wait and still waitin for her till she has the right age and when i was with her i respected her i love her cuz the way she is. what would you do?
A) Fight for her and risk it b) see her once in a while d) r wait without seeing her but have a risk of losing her cuz two years is a long time.
2007-02-12 04:09:13 · 26 answers · asked by chiva_88 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok just to let yall know i met her in high school when i was 17 k. but i have not seen her since her parents told me k. just to add cuz ive been gettin some advices
2007-02-12 04:24:07 · update #1
oh n i havent had sex with her cuz thats not the most important thing in a relationship i love her for what shee is inside not for how she looks. n i respect her in every extent.
2007-02-12 04:27:37 · update #2
oh yeah i dont make her skip. she used to skip alot but when we were in high school i helped her out in school we were friends for 4 months and i was scared of this situation but i felt in love and cant get up. i dont want to but i will wait as much it takes.
2007-02-12 04:31:52 · update #3
ok n im not lying about my age im 18 n actually going to turn 19 next month.
n she is 16
2007-02-12 07:02:02 · update #4
oh n im not a child predator cuz im not going out chasing little girls theres only one girl in my life and the only one at this point that im willin to wait for.
2007-02-12 07:04:32 · update #5
I think that you should wait for her to turn 18 first. If she does feel that way about you then it shouldnt be a problem right. The fact that your not trying to have sex with her is a good thing b/c i know a lot of guys who wouldn't even care if the girl was jail bait or not. I think you should hang out with her maybe once a week or so just to let her know that your still there for her but not to much b/c it'll be hard not to get intimate if you really do carea about each other. But wait man im sure it'll pay off big later.
2007-02-12 13:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ace of Blackness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. In two years time, you also may meet someone else. You are not so desperate that you think there is only one person you can be interested in in your life, are you? And remember that you have been warned by her parents to stay away - if you are dumb enough to 'fight for her', you will be in prison with a lot of other 'dumb enough' people. Honestly, what don't you understand about the illegality of becoming romantically involved with someone who is underage? I'm assuming that you are at least 20 (you might be blantantly lying about how much older you are than she is)... So when you are 25, she will be 21. That's a time in life when you meet on more equal ground. Right now, you just sound like a predator going after someone who is too young. I know you don't like to hear that but it is the reason the law is the way it is.
2007-02-12 06:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off she is to young to know what she wants, she is under 16 so she is not going to want to be with one person forever.She may think that now but eventually she will want to shop around. Second you are young also if you love her that's great but you need to enjoy your life for a while, you do not need to be tied down to anyone right now. If I were you I would wait for her if you truly do love her but that doesn't mean that you have to put your life on hold. You can still go out with other girls and have fun, I don't mean be in a relationship or anything but go out just as friends. Who knows you may end up finding someone you love more than the other girl. Good luck and stay safe
2007-02-12 04:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk with her parents and explain your intentions. Tell them you understand that she is too young right now and ask if the two of you could do "family" things together. Dinner at each other's homes, outings with family, etc. Maybe if they are around you enough you can prove yourself to them. Just keep in mind that 16 is too young to be as sure as you are. Don't pressure this girl into a commitment that she may resent you for later. Just be there for her and let her know your feelings haven't changed and that you'll wait.
2007-02-12 06:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what it takes, so if waiting is what it's going to take you may have to wait. If she loves you as much you won't lose her. However, you could try speaking to her parents, saying that you love her enough to respect any decision they make but just ask if they object to the two of you meeting up occasionally, with their supervision if necessary.
It's sometimes hard for parents to deal with the fact that their children are growing up. However most parents have their child's best interests at heart and if they understand that you love and respect her and will not hurt her you may be able to put their minds at rest so they will be more comfortable with the occasional visit.
2007-02-12 05:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this girl, and I think you do, wait. Let her turn 18, let her graduate, then get married. You don't have to fight for her, in the end that will only make things worse on the relationship. Let's say you do fight. Not only can they have you arrested, but her parents will NEVER like you. Sit her father down and explain to him that you love this girl and you are willing to wait for her to come of age. How much older are you? Don't force, no one wins in a situation like this.
2007-02-12 04:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by brandiwhine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to tell her how you feel b/c u really do sound sincere (Whoo! maybe there's hope for me after all) As far as parents, try to lay off a little without completely separating yourself from her. Maybe you could talk to her parents and let them know that u understand and try to work somthing out. Just don't get on the parent's bad side because that'll mess EVERYHTING up. Be respectful, and no matter how much u dissagree with them, dont raise your voice, throw anything... or threaten to run away and elope.
2007-02-12 09:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by <Me> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Continue seeing her but don't do anything drastic. If and when you see the parents, act decent and respectful. If at any point you can take them out to dinner or anything, you pay. Just try to keep your distance from the parents, btu bhe as kind and as much of a gentlemen as possible, and have her help too.
2007-02-13 02:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Firewheel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing, waiting !
I am so glad to hear that there are guys out there that know how to respect a girl and the girl's parents !
Maybe if you talk to her parents and explain to them how you feel and how long you'll wait for her.
I know they are just trying to protect their daughter from being hurt.
2007-02-12 04:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way you can't do that! She doesn't know now what she will want to do for the rest of her life. She is only 16. If you keep dating and even get married it is highly likely that it will end up in divorce. Even if you don't get married you will probably break up very soon. I think you should try other girls that are your age.
2007-02-12 07:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by robg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋