my bf and i tried to have sex for the first time two days ago, but we had a big problem... he gets hard during foreplay, but as soon as he puts a condom on., he goes soft again, meaning he can't penetrate.. he said the condom stops blood flow so he looses his erection. can this happen? i suggested i wear a diaphram (female condom). i have never used one before.. where can i buy one and is it effective and how do i put it on? help, i feel so bad for my Boyfriend cuz i got my orgasm from foreplay and he didn't! what could be wrong??
2007-02-12 04:02:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Lucky Girl your boy needs a bigger condom!!! You can buy bigger condoms at any drug store or walmart!! Your man may be a bit nervous too since its the first time for you two so calm him down and get him to relax. As for the diaphram you have to go to the doctor and get fitted for one and they will show you how to insert it and always wash it before and after use to prevent any infections!
2007-02-15 08:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by BRANDIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diaphrams are from your gyn and are prescription. A female condom is something totally different. If the blood is really cutting off circulation then he should try a bigger one like a magnum but only 5% of men really need this size and if its too small you risk the semen seeping out- not a good thing. Chances are like most guys I know when they have to get a condom out aka stop having sex for a minute then unwrap it and put it on the intimacy kind of goes away all he needs to do is stroke it himself or you can to get it hard again. Then youll be able to have sex... however if your young you should not have sex! But if you decide to you SHOULD NOT have sex without a condom! Hope that helps. Alos, alot of girls have orgasms from foreplay because theres a lot of clitoral stimulation. And its really hard to have one from intercourse, just fyi. Your guy may just be nervous and thats why he didnt orgasm, just like if youre nervous or not thinking sexually then you wont orgasm....
2007-02-12 10:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzy_peach_15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs a bigger size condom also there is a big difference between a diaphram and a female condom. But you can ask a health professional at your local Health Department for female condoms in most cases they can be given out for free. Good luck.
2007-02-12 04:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sherrie D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong because I have never used one, but I'm pretty sure diaphrams are prescription only because they have to be fitted to you. The doctor will explain exactly how they are used.
2007-02-12 04:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend had the same problem at first but he said it was beacuse all the pressure was on him
if you reassure him and tell him to relax it might just help
good luck
xx
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