We leave together him with me he doesn’t have his own place. So when I pack his stuff up for him he gets real mad or tell him to leave and come get his stuff he ignores me. I’m scared if I call the police he will get out and come to my house to do something to me ,my kids and my house and there’s no where for me to go. That’s the reason for me not calling the cops to my home is because I don’t want confusing brought to my place ,but I see that’s the only resolution because I don’t want to hold on to nothing it’s over !! I was told to give him the cold shoulder with kindness and he’ll just go away!!!
2007-02-12 03:57:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
abusiveness is not related to the sign, but to his stupidity
2007-02-12 07:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no question that you should GET OUT of that relationship. If you own the house, make sure the insurance is up to date and covers just about everything that could possibly happen to it.
Get the children out first to a place where they'd be safe and out of reach (where's the father?).
You definitely need to stop showing him fear, since like the animal that he is, he can smell it and use it against you. He sounds worthless, so definitely pack his stuff, set in on the curb and change the locks. At the same time, go to the police and file a complaint. Then avoid being alone and unprotected until things cool down and he gets the message.
Take control of your life and learn to respect yourself and your children enough to not allow yourself to be victimized. Get help. Tell everyone and don't be ashamed. This type of situation only thrives because women try to hide in fear and shame.
2007-02-12 04:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what sign you are or he is, you do not and should not live with abuse of any kind from anybody. I am a Gemini and my ex-husband was a Scorpio. Every sign has good and bad sides, but abuse is a matter of choice. His choice to act negatively and continue without searching for professional help and your choice for continuing to live with it. You are also deciding to have your kids live in that environment, by allowing someone to treat you bad. I lived with my husband for 22 years, we had 2 children together, one of them was born with cerebral palsy, she is a quadriplegic and is blind. She is the older of our two kids. My husband was a very rich man, arrogant, a bully, and an abuser. Only what was best for him mattered. I was blind to see what damages he was doing. I tried harder, stuck up for him to others, and became really really sick because it was a lie what I was living. I thought well I could be worse off, he does have a good side. I ended up in the hospital and he came flying in there saying I was a bad mother for not being at home looking after the kids. He accused me of wanting attention and said I was trying to make him look like an ....hole. I was bleeding to death internally from ulcerations. When I was at my worst in ICU he never came and never told my family what was happening, but was then helping a "girl" friend move instead. Still I recovered for my children. I suffered alot and put up with it. It took my son at 16 to tell me that he couldn't take it anymore and he was going to leave home. Don't wait 22 years, don't allow your kids to live in that because you choose. Start seeking out help and answers from friends, doctors, welfare, anyone. There is only one thing stronger than love and that is fear. Your relationship is based on fear not love. You are stronger than that and deserve love and a happy life, no matter what he wants you to believe. You are not the reason for his sickness.
2007-02-12 06:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that relationship.Call the police that is what they are there for to protect and serve.There are places that will help you with the problems you are having. MY answer is for you to call the police and ask them if they know of a place that will keep you safe,until it is over with.
2007-02-12 04:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is take your kids to a friends house or your parents, that way they want see wats going on...go to the police and tell them why you dont want him in your house...they will give him a certain amount of time to get his things and get out, if he disobeys he can go to jail...plus you can get a restraning order on him to keep him from coming to your house..if he does the same he can and will go to jail....
2007-02-12 04:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dk how old you are but you should consider going back to your parents for awhile or with a friend....that isnt a good situation..
2007-02-12 04:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you still doing with him? Move out if he won't, and don't tell him where you're going to be.
2007-02-12 04:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋