why am I being rejected by all ?

Question

I am being rejected by all the grooms for the past five years(I am 30)on the grounds of bad horoscope and am really fed up though i am good looking, rich, educated,working, good salary, good family and not able to concentrate on anything and very frustrated and became very emotional these days. does the horoscope really play that important role in ones lives? I do not know why the people are so particular about it. Are there no marriages that ended up with divorce though hers or his horoscope is excellent. then, how come the love marriages are happening because they do not start loving seeing the horoscope compatability. will he leave her after several years of love, if the horoscope does not match or hers is bad horoscope? Can anyone please console me and relieve my pain and frustration with your writings? I really do not want to live and am always in depression and suicidal ideation. Above all, the society is creating a lot of problem for me and cannot attend any functions.

Answer 1

its becasue your thinking to much. just go with the flow and let life happen.

Answer 2

There is an important piece of information missing from this story: where are you from? I am guessing you are not from America. If you are, you are in the vast minority here. Most people in America could care less about horoscopes. There is no statistical evidence that suggests that they have any effect on horoscopes. Horoscopes are not important in a relationship. People are. But that is the LEAST of your problems right now.

You have a serious emotional problem, and you need to deal with that right away. Depression, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, suicidal attitudes... these things are a big turn-off to most people. No one wants to be with someone who is always sad and down on themselves. That is likely why you are having a hard time attracting someone.

But don't worry about that. You are you based on the merits of yourself, not based on the relationships you do or don't have. You need to work on your self-image. You need to appreciate yourself for what you are, and not just for who you are with (or not with). You say you are rich and educated. Use that money and intellect and find yourself a good therapist. Ask your doctor for medication to help with your depression. Take some action to deal with the emotional problems that are haunting you. This is your real problem, not the rejection. The rejection is the symptom, not the illness.

You can do this, regardless of where you live. If you have the means, find professional help. A doctor. A psychiatrist. A psychologist. A counselor. A therapist. Whatever is available in your area. Also, eat healthy and get some exercise. Do something you enjoy doing. Talk to people who can help you. Millions and millions of people feel the same way you do right now, and many of them will have a full recovery... but only if they seek help. I hope you will do so. It is worth it. You are worth it. Good luck!

Answer 3

Stop looking at the horoscopes. You can read through 30 different sources offering horoscopes and no two will be identical. The universe starts within one's self and the positive and negative vibes are transcended by your personal thought. If you utilize the horoscopes as a crutch then you are behind the 8-ball. Think about why you are successful at work... it's because you more than likely had to train yourself the task. Relationships are the same but if you are getting negative input from a snake-oil salesman - you aren't starting out on the right foot. It sounds like you have so many positives yet you are allowing some garbage to be injected into your thought processes and diluting the whole picture. Stop looking at the horoscopes.

Answer 4

Hi,

From what you write, there are lots of confusion around you. Why do you put so much faith in horoscope ?
As far as the grooms are concerned, may be there was something wrong with them not with you.
It is very -extremely- hard in the Western world nowadays to build a life long relationship. This has nothing to do with you. It has to do with the recent evolution of society. In fact your perception on that regard is correct and is a proof of your intelligence,
Here is a tip that might help you, better single at 30 and on your way to the right groom than married with a maniac for ten years !
Come on, hold on, it is difficult not impossible.... the best men are not the ones which we remark. You have to go out of the common places to find them.
Good luck !

Answer 5

They reject you because they think the horoscope is bad? If so, you need to find someone that doesnt care about those things. Thats silly. I like horoscopes and astrology but even I know you cannot live your life around it. Believe me if I did I wouldve been a wreck now, as it told me the last 6 months I was in a transit that could cause relationships to end suddenly. Well that didnt happen, in fact I am done with the transit and me and my man are moving into our own home this week! You have to take these readings with a grain of salt. They are factored by who did the interpreting, and by your own energies built into you as well.
Perhaps you should give astrology a break. If it is causing you stress, put it up until you are at a time in your life that you can handle it better. And until then if you are that detressed go see your doctor about meds and do some soul searching with the focus of learning to like yourself and add to that by developing more things that you CaN like about yourself

Answer 6

Well, considering you have a 'bad' horoscope, you are doing alright, aren't you? Good looks, rich, educated, good family, and so on. Seems to me that you are caught up in a situation where superstition is making a mockery of common sense.

Already, you have proved that your chart does not rule your life and how it has turned out.

An astrological chart is about 'tendencies', it is not about things that cannot be changed at all. That is my understanding of astrology, anyway.

I do not know how to console you other than to say that free will overcomes 'bad' planetary aspects any day of the week.

There must be educated men in your community who are willing to overlook the horoscope and marry you.

You are a worthwhile person. Please remember that.

Good luck.

P.S. I agree with Evil Spoon's assessment as well. Get some professional help and work on your sense of self-worth.

Answer 7

Well..I dont know what to say. Keep trying dont give up and eventually someone will have to see a horoscope compatibility there? Is there anyway you can lie and fraud your horoscope? Pay someone to print one up that looks excellent? That may be another option as well. Or else move to a different country and marry a different culture who doesnt place so much stupid relevence on horoscopes of all things.

Answer 8

Horoscopes are not reliable sources for love. Look at one source and see what it says. Look at another source, it will say something entirely different. These men who rejected you were looking for a way out and used the horoscope to do it. It's a punk move, and you deserve better than them. I recommend talking to a close friend or a pastor about what you're feeling. You have a lot to offer, and there are men out there looking for someone like you. Just fix your heart, get your emotions in order, and everything will fall into place. Many blessings.

Answer 9

Sweth,
Calm down. There's nothing to be suicidal about.
To me, it seems that there's only one side of your life where things are not working to your satisfaction. And well, it's just not any side.
For some it's more important to have a good career, for others, me included, love is far more important.
But, you see, I still haven't found the right man for me; Me too, I've been rejected; But it's the way it works for some, before finding the right one: we reject and are rejected.
I know, it hurts.
Specially when you think that why should it work for such and such, and not you?
Well babe, you just have to keep trying and it will happen.
Don't give up so fast. That's what life is about. Keep trying. Besides, if you don't think that you are worth loving, who do you expect will be?
You know, it's like everything else in life; Nothing comes easy.
Keep going babe.xxx

Answer 10

I really can't understand why any bloke would choose (or reject) a woman based on their horoscope. Perhaps you just need to find some different men. Perhaps a change to your social circle may yield better results.

If you are well off, good looking and have a good education then you'll meet the right fella soon enough...

Answer 11

Forget about all that sh** None of it is worth you time! Concentrate on yourself, your family. Get a Hobby, vacation, just have fun! Love will happen for you when you least expect it! I know it's a lame sentiment but it's true My father married a woman who had never been married and she was 42. Also if your that depressed seek counseling don't end your life or stupid stuff There are people out there that care about you and you know this!