I am 20 weeks pregnant and my temper is out of control! What can i do??

Question

One minute i am fine, the next i have blown up over the smallest thing, then i am apologising for what i have said or done. I have always had a fiery temper but i usually manage to keep it under control or i wait until i am alone before i "let it all out". How can i control it now i am pregnant? My count to 10 method isn't working at all!!! HELP!!!!!

Answer 1

A very good friend of mine was pregnant last summer all through till last August. She went nutty. She turned into a complete nightmare at work and nobody could go near her. I even fell out with her until after the baby was born.
The best thing you can do is in your 'sane' moments try and explain how you feel to people and apologise in advance if you appear rude or moody towards them but you are having trouble coping with the pregnancy in terms of how it's making you feel. You also need to ask people to stand up to you when you get like this, not scream back at you but to tell you when you're doing it so you're more aware you're upsetting people. Nobody ever confronted my friend including me so allot of the time I honestly think she was unaware of what she was doing.
Apart from all that theres not allot you can do, other than try and remove yourself from situations that wind you up, if you're working try to reduce your hours and if things at home are difficult ask for help.
People are usually more willing to help then we give them credit for, just give them a chance to help.
Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy the birth, hope it all goes well for you.

Answer 2

I can completely sympathise with you. I am 12 weeks pregnant and Saturday I nearly turned my partner, and my mum and dad against me!! Its uncontrolable hormones!! My method was on Sat to keep out the way as much as possible and watching telly (or any other method of keeping occupied) when I felt like blowing was kind of helping. It used to help to do a bit of exercise before I was pregnant so I think that would be the case now. I also went for a walk in the fresh air which calmed me down a bit. Good luck, your not alone!!

Answer 3

It's hard to deal with those pregnancy hormones. You have to make more of an effort to calm down. Try slow breathing and visualization. Exercise really helped me. If I walked for 30-60 minutes a day, I'd feel more relaxed. Take some time out for yourself. Drink a warm cup of decaf tea and go for a walk.

Answer 4

Girl I am only like 3 weeks and I am already ready to kill the next person that looks at me wrong. So I am totaly with you. Forget the whole count to ten thing and just scream it will be ok. I usually scream at my husband, mostly because he had a hand in the whole pregnancy thing too. but you are closer to the end than i am. I would verture to say you need a mommy day out. Do something just for yourself. See if that helps, if not then scream at the imaginary people.

Answer 5

Take a few deep breaths and make sure to get plenty of rest. Go for a nice walk or bike ride to help relieve things. Remember exercising helps you to release endorphins which make you happy. If those things don't work try to find something to focus on like what your baby is going to look like or look through a photo album watch a funny movie or visit a funny website.

Answer 6

hey at least u ain't crying at the end of a cup of tea!! lol. i was crying at evn my alarm clock going off 4 work...admittly it was about 4am it'd go off but still! anywayz, i went to my doc's n they sent me counciling which really helped. maybe it wuld wiv u if u culd go there n rant n rave at some poor stranger instead of ur family n friends? its true ur baby can feel that mummy isn't a happy bunny, but i bet all these ppl tellin u 2 calm dwn n chill out aren't helping...so don't listen! they're prob making u angry allllllllllllllllllllllllll over agnjust listen 2 wot YOU find helpful n ignore wot u dnt, that goes wiv how 2 treat baby 2. try gettn a punch bag, or get sum pilliow, tie 'em up n hang 'em from the ceiling...cheapy punchbag!
lol. hope ur temper calms dwn, n if u wanted 2 rant n have ASAP at someone just email me, i can rant n rave 4 england i swear! well....prob more likely 2 cry 4 england, but i'll try 2 help ya out

Answer 7

with my first pregnancy I was really bad. Before it was all over people didn't want to be around me. With my second I tried to stay aware of my emotions so I could keep them in check but that one ended in miscarriage so I didn't get to the full blown hormones to tell u if that worked.
But it does seem like more people got on my nerves with the 2nd but I dealt with it better. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

talk to your midwife and Gp.
It's easy for us to just say calm down but it's not like waving a magic wand is it!
You could try doing some relaxation techniques with a CD at the end of each day.
And maybe whoever annoys you try to just walk away?
Your hormones wont be helping with this but try and do things that you know you find relaxing and allow yourself some ' me time'

Answer 9

Lot's of long warm baths with magazines, aromatherapy oils or anything that relaxes you. Nights in with the girls. Plus nights out for dinner with prtner.
Also ask your partner to just come and give you a hug when you angry. (maybe once you have calmed down!!!) But not to argue back or respond at all.
Mainly lot's of YOU time.

Answer 10

i completly understand.. i have no temper and i was bad when i was prgnant. i guess you just have to keep reminding yourself that being pregnant is the reasons, and your hormones are out of wack. its hard, but thats about all you can do. drink dome decaf tea... helps you calm down. otherwise, maybe you just have to walk away. beter get it in check soon though, cause as you get bigger.... (i hate to say it).... it gets worse... good luck, stay happy, you have a wonderful baby on the way, and they can sence stress :)