Plz help i want to know what to do?

Question

when my husband is mad or angry at me he just take a car and go and come back the next day,no matter how small the problem is,and when i speak to him about it he will be angry again
6 MONTHS of marriage and dated almost 2 years

Answer 1

Not a healthy way to resolve problems in your relationship. Try sitting him down and letting him know that you do not find his behavior acceptable. If he won't listen, then seek counseling.

Answer 2

It's marriage counseling time. You two need to have a serious talk about communication, trust, and dealing with your problems. What he is doing is not normal. A guy storming out once in a great, great while after a big fight? Sure. That might not mean anything. All the time? That is not a good sign. Where does he go? Will he tell you that? Any number of things could be going on here. It could just be his way of getting away from the problem and calming down. It might be that he has another woman on the side, and he's using the fights as an excuse to be with her.

There is not enough information here for someone here to help you. There is likely only one good, healthy way to figure this out. You need to talk to him, tell him you love him, but let him know you are unhappy. Then tell him you want to see a marriage counselor. A marriage counselor can help you identify the underlying problems and develop constructive solutions to eliminate the problems and strengthen your marriage. If he refuses to go, then go without him. It will really open up your eyes and help you work your way through this problem.

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is relationship poison. This is NO way of dealing with an argument because it leads no NO communication and more marriage issues.

Sorry, but your marriage is in serious trouble. When you argue do you scream, yell, throw things or threaten with suicide or physical violence? Maybe he just want you to cool off.

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If he picks fights just so you guys start arguing, then this is serious indication of him making an excuse to get out of the house. This happens normally when he is cheating and pick excuses to stay overnight with her, and of course making you feel responsible for him leaving and guilty for arguing, therefore you won't ask questions because you will feel afraid to bring it up, because you are afraid of him leaving again. It works for acharm for the cheater, because i=they bulldozer you over into thinking that the relationship is in trouble because of YOU and that you "drove him" into someone else's arms, so the cheatings is ultimatly your fault. Shame, shame, shame.

My suggestion: do not argue like he wants youa nd expect you too, Be calm, don't cry, do not make any thretas, don't stand at the door blocking him from leaving. Get to the bottom of this is investigate what is causing this behavior.

Your marriage is in trouble and you need counselling, but first you have to know what REALLY is going on.

Good luck

Answer 4

well i guess the good thing is he's not hitting you when he's mad but the bad thing is he has no real reason to leave for entire day- thats stupid! he gets mad over the smallest things because he needs a reason to get out of the house and go do whatever. now he can say - i left because you made me mad.. try this: try to keep him happy for as long as possible, dont let him get mad, make jokes- keep everything as happy as possible. he will start finding extremely dumb reasons to leave the house and he will probably just leave without giving a reason at all. its not you girlfriend!

Answer 5

He needs to learn how to take about things without a bunch of hang ups on his part. It sounds like he needs to go to anger couselling to deal with his anger. You are going to have to find a way to sit him down and talk to him when he can't run away from you. Go out to dinner and talk softly to him and tell him how much you love him, but it upsets you when he doesn't talk and you are not judging him you just need him to talk about things without him getting upset and thinking that you are attacking him. Tell him that you need and love him and that you really need to talk and that communication in a relatioship is very important. Tell him when he stays out all night you are upset and get really worried about him. Ask him to please just learn to talk to you and you would appriciate him all the more if he could do this small thing for you because you don't feel loved when he runs away all the time. Chances are he just needs to be reasured and this sounds like something that goes back to childhood. How did he communicate with his parents and siblings, tell him that you are not them and that you just want to talk. Take care Heather

Answer 6

You sound like you are both young and immature.

It has only been a few times that one of us has gotten so mad we went for a drive, but it's only ever been a couple of hours. Next day??? That's a problem. Big one......

You need to know where he's going. You guys have a lot of work to do.

Answer 7

Leave him! Show him how it feels when you walk out on him. He is a loser baby, you can do better than that! Oh boy, Just pack all yuour stuff up while he is "out" and let him come home to an empty house. Go stay with your parents friends etc.... just dont let him know where you are at.

Answer 8

You guys need to open up the lines of communications otherwise your marriage isn't going to last.

Try sitting down and talking with him about it, but don't bring up a specific fight. Just say something like " I think we need a better way with dealing with our problems. Why can't we just sit down and talk it out? I understand if you need sometime to cool down before talking, but could you please not stay out all night? Could we give each other some space and time to think, then after a designated amount of time, sit down and try to work it out?"

Answer 9

You take the car and come home the next day!

Answer 10

Lock the doors and hide the keys, get the video camera ready and then make him mad and have fun fun fun.
If he hits you ....Leave, if he laughs then sit down and tell him how you feel, when he behaves like a child.