I am 12 years older than her and I still don't feel that I should have my own children for that I can believe that she is so irresponsible after I told her about using protection so many-many times.I always told her how important is school in life and it looks like she cares only about dating boys.What can I do to help her ?Please help me,Thank You!
2007-02-12 03:14:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She needs you to be a sister, not a life counselor. Help her make decisions, but don't make them for her; it's not your life.
Ask her opinion and discuss options with her and what you know about them. If she wants to keep the child, help her figure out how. Let her know that this is going to be a choice that she can't take back.
If you're this concerned about her life track, talk to her about priorities (which may NOT be the same as yours). With luck, this will teach her some responsibility and to be held accountable for her behavior.
Why isn't a 16 year old girl on any form of birth-control?
2007-02-12 03:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try not to worry too much. I'm 3 years older than my oldest little sister (I have 3) got pregnant when she was 16. This was when I was 19 and still in college. I remember being really angry at her for being so stupid. But everything turned out ok, the father stayed around, they live just a little while away from my parents. They are supporting the baby just fine. She is now 23 and I love my 7 year old nephew to death. The brightest spot of visiting my folks is getting to see all my little nieces and nephews (I also have an older sister who lives near my parents who has 3 kids and an older brother who has 2 kids, and 2 other little sisters, and 2 other little brothers (who hopefully are not planning on having any more kids soon).
2007-02-12 16:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is tough and you tried telling her. I know teenagers may be stubborn but everyone goes through this phase. Nowadays everything has change. The only thing you can do now is take care of her and hopefully her boyfriend will too. I mean he is the father. Well I guess she got pregnant because all she cared about was about having a good time and now she has to face this problem. Just make her feel good but also advise her on things. Make sure you guys stil have a close relationship
2007-02-12 13:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Yasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You were doing right by stressing the protection and the school on her.
2. A lot of people her age do only think about dating boys.
3. What you can do now, is to just be there for her. Tell her that you still love her even though she got pregnant. Tell her the only reason you were fretting over everything was because you loved her so much and you wanted to try to protect her. If your parents are unwilling to be there for her you definatly need to step up since your 12 years older and tell her that you love her, and that she isn't going to be alone through it.
4. And lastly, Thanks for being a good older sister. :)
2007-02-12 11:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh wow i understand your situation A LOT.
Im 16 and pregnant and my brother is 13 years older then me.
Trust me the last thing she will need is you holding a grudge against her. It will probably be hard and you dont know that she didnt use protection (or maybe you do) but i became pregnant even tho we used a condom everytime.
Just sit her down and talk to her and the babies father. Tell them that they both need to get jobs (its illegal for them not to hire her just because shes pregnant). Help her out. You can let her know your disappointed but do make her feel horrible about it. That why my brother did to me and yesterday was the first time we talked and got along since he found out i was pregnant, and im due in 4 weeks.
So just help her out and give her a ride to appointments and help them get jobs and to save up their money. She is the only one who can decides what goes on with her pregnancy. Theres abortion, adoption, keeping the baby and an open adoption. (open adoption is where she can go over the families house and see the baby, but there are different kinds so maybe she will just get pics of the baby) Just support what ever she decides. Let her know how hard it will be to have a baby and go to school and such.(you could also help her get her G.E.D insted of staying in school....google it for more info) i could still go on so if you would want to talk more then you can email me or whatever.
...good luck and just try and be gentle with her feelings shes probably very emotional right now....how far along is she?
2007-02-12 11:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One- it is already done. Don't dog her. It can push her away.
Two- be the best sister you can for her. Put your feelings aside. I'm sure she is scared right now. I got pregnant at 15 and it was a very alone feeling.
Three- Be there for her. You cant turn back time. Think positive and go baby bananas.
2007-02-12 16:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop being so hard on her and be a big sister who cares. Remember as you travel in life that there are know bad people , People make bad decisions. just be there for her.
2007-02-12 11:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,she made the decision to open her legs, so it's her own fault.
I'd help her whenever she needs it, she is only SMALL CHILD by the way, but don't drop everything and run to her whenever she needs something.She needs to learn what she did wasn't smart and she needs to learn from her mistakes.
2007-02-12 13:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure she doesn't use abortion, that is murder,
make sure that you are there for her, the mistake was made now you need to correct it.
Adopt the baby if she can't support it herself because the child is important and shouldn't be removed from it's family because your sister made that mistake
2007-02-12 12:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you can quit be so judgemental. She is not you. She needs you to be there for her and may need a lot of help over the next couple years.
2007-02-12 11:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋