Not like a fleeting thought..more like a full-out sexcapade in your brain. Is this wrong? If so, how could you control it?
For example - Lusting after a very sexy frontman during a show and it seems like he keeps shooting her glances - very sexy ones. After the show, he lingers around, never saying anything because his girlfriend was attached at his hip. Still, he manages to give this other woman several quick but intense glances and the sexual attraction, along with his blatant teasing causes the woman to fantasize about him.
Did the two people cheat on their SOs?
2007-02-12 03:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The brain is a wonderful thing. It houses fantasies of all kinds. This lust is not cheating unless 1) he or you give him or get from him a slip of paper with your phone # or e-mail address or some other way to contact , 2) follow through and meet him and 3) have the greatest sex of your life.
The best way to control it is to jump the bones of your SO and go at it for about an hour. That should do it.
2007-02-12 03:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not cheating. It is unrealistic to believe that once you're attached to someone either through marriage or commited relationship, that you're never going to be attracted to someone else ever again.
It only becomes cheating when both parties act on their fantasy.
I might point out that fantasizing about other people during sex with your partner is a good way to improve your sex-life if it has started to slow down or become boring.
2007-02-12 03:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the circumstances, but against popular opinion, yes it is cheating. I know most people will say you can look but not touch, or look at the menu but don't have to order, but it isn't right. First of all, just on that thought, the more you keep looking, the more you are going to want, and that will inevitably lead to cheating. Besides, it isn't fair to the one you are with.
If you happen to be a Christian, Mathew 5:28 states that looking upon someone with lust has already committed adultery in their heart. In the eyes of God, it is not only a sin to lust after someone if you are married, but it is considered adultery.
Now, it sounds like this is a boyfriend/girlfriend scenario - so you aren't married, however, it is still lust and is not good.
Besides, you have to ask yourself some questions. Do you have a boyfriend, if so, then should you be with him if you have such strong desires for someone else? It isn't fair to your current boyfriend (if you have one) and should break up so you can be free to date someone else. Also, do you want to be the girl that potentially assists in breaking up a relationship? Sure, if he is giving you sexy glances he is not being committed to his girlfriend, but do you want to get involved in that potential mess?
Not only that, but if he does end up by chance sneak around on his girlfriend to see you, so cheating on his girlfriend, do you want to be with a guy that does that? Whose to say he wouldn't do that to you if you guys got together.
Just some food for thought.
2007-02-12 03:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Brn_Eye_Grl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To lust is very natural,that means that you are alive. How you deal with it will determine if you are cheating. Accept the fact that you are attracted to him, then find a way that is not detrimental to your relationship or his with his partner to deal with it. Avoid situations where you mind be alone and focus on your current relationship and give it all you've got if you want it to survive.
2007-02-12 03:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think lusting is considered cheating it's the actions you take everybody has thought about someone sexually one time or another now if you act on it that's different people cannot help if they are attracted to someone
2007-02-12 03:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man thats so natural, go with it, just dont do anything sexual, lusting is another form of fantasizing, so if u think of someone in your mind, is that considered cheating? is that giving yourself to other men? if using a sex toy isnt cheating then this isnt either. have fun.
2007-02-12 03:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well full fledged lusting and if u have a man is not physically cheating but it is wrong to do so. Especially if ur married!!!
2007-02-12 03:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes lusting to others is,cheating,if a woman is giving signal to a man,hey! you can F@#% me, free and no string attach,never mind my partner here and your partner,and the man catches that, ohhhh! he 'll go crazy for you,after that, don't expect his respect for you. I don't think a person will lust on her mind only ,she will do it on the act too.You can control this feeling ,by having self respect, and morals, Will it be right to you if your partner will lust mentally to others,while you are with him? That is sick is it not?
2007-02-12 03:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. There will always be attraction, even sexual attraction, with other people...even in the most committed relationships. The only way to control it is to avoid situations where you would run into that person.
2007-02-12 03:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's normal ur not gonna be attracted to only ur husband and wife. we're human and it's only natural don't worry about it too much if ur only thinking and not doing
2007-02-12 03:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋